Demoted to just a friend, then
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As far as your story goes he never promised you any relationship. It's all within his rights and liberties not to reciprocate your feelings. I understand it's hard for you, but you cannot go through life expecting that maybe, one day, he will change his mind.
Resentments like this tend to show up when we don’t follow the boundaries we put in place to protect ourselves (or haven’t made a healthy boundary to begin with). It’s fine to go above and beyond to help a friend, but if they consistently don’t emulate that behaviour to you, and you are frustrated over it, then it’s up to you to change YOUR behaviour to prevent being upset.
He's not into you. Respect his boundaries and get over yourself. Get therapy, too; you'll gain some self respect.
Time to move on. Might be he treasures the friendship and doesn't want to spoil it with romantic entanglement.
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As far as your story goes he never promised you any relationship. It's all within his rights and liberties not to reciprocate your feelings. I understand it's hard for you, but you cannot go through life expecting that maybe, one day, he will change his mind.
Resentments like this tend to show up when we don’t follow the boundaries we put in place to protect ourselves (or haven’t made a healthy boundary to begin with). It’s fine to go above and beyond to help a friend, but if they consistently don’t emulate that behaviour to you, and you are frustrated over it, then it’s up to you to change YOUR behaviour to prevent being upset.