By womanlover12345 - 18/07/2011 16:05 - Spain
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You have to understand that if you say something to a girl and she isn't looking for it or wanting it, then you're a creep. But if a girl was to say she loves you and you "Uhh, thanks?", then you're an asshole and will be hated by all 1000 of her friends and all their friends too. It's the game we all play. It's fun, yeah?
yeah 71 cause only nerds read fml. though you do have a point. us nerds know a bit more about love than your typical dick head jock. we never get girls but we sit and watch relationships fail and see where people go wrong. most of us just never get a chance. but when we do it usually lasts.
#95, as much as I'd like to believe that's true, it isn't. Maybe for teenagers or young adults, but watching where other people go wrong can only get you so far. Being in long lasting relationships doesn't mean much either, simply because you can be with someone for any length of time for all the wrong reasons. The best way to learn is with trial and error. Even your 'typical dick head jock' can learn from their mistakes.
177- it does. I've seen people go through tons of relationship drama (of their own causing) and still stay together. Part of being in a relationship is making mistakes and knowing how to fix them. And as for dickhead jocks, I know plenty. And there's no miracle to change them but some people really do manage it.
Someone confused "love" with "rumpy pumpy". Just cause 'nerds don't get laid' - which is also not true - doesn't mean you can't be aware that after four months, "I love you" is not something to tell your girlfriend. God forbid boys and girls go on dates for months on end before even sleeping together.
Exactly. You can't read someone else's mind to find out if they love you back. What you can do is start introducing the word "love" more often into conversation. I.e. "I love the way you smile at me", or "I love cuddling up to watch a movie with you". The other person's responses will guide you toward less or more intimacy in verbalizing feelings of love.
There's nothing wrong with telling the person you love that you love them all the time. You're assuming I didn't show them through actions, which is a blind argument. I'm not devaluing the term because when I use it I'm honest about it. Maybe it's because I spent 7 months of dating the person before asking to be in a relationship that I feel like anyone in one shouldn't feel some sort of accomplishment for finally being able to tell someone he's been in a relationship for 4 months that he loves them. Why are they dating if they can't even say it? But thanks for the assumptions.
I don't view love that way at all, asshole. I wouldn't date someone 7 months before asking to be in a relationship if my sole purpose was to bang. I believe it should blossom and once you love the person you should begin a relationship. I struggle to understand why someone would be in a relationship with someone they don't love. Maybe I'm in the wrong here and the whole world goes into relationships hoping one day they'll love their partner, but it all seems really stupid to me why they don't do so beforehand.
117 - I feel you have the right idea. However, most people today skip the whole courtship phase and go straight into a relationship, becoming "exclusive" before having feelings greater than "I really like this person". I apologize for the previous assumption, but many people don't go in the same order as you apparently have.
Freeze, what you said in comment #117 exactly conveys how I feel about relationships. From what I've seen of your comments here, I respect you as a person. But, I do honestly feel that overusing the phrase "I love you" does cheapen it somewhat. That's what I meant by devaluing. Think about what makes things valuable in the real world: rarity. Anyway, I didn't mean to assume anything about you; I was just offering my view.
ah yes, the freeze way is the only way to be in a relationship. of course, how silly of us. i must therefore apologise, i go into relationships whenever i feel comfortable doing so, based on my own feelings of where i see something going, rather than meeting a set list of criteria as per your opinions. unfortunately this ultimately doomed relationship is still going. how i wish it would just end already so i can finally implement your opinions into my life.