By Anonymous - 19/04/2016 15:59 - United States - De Soto
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Insults are like an ocean and your body is like a ship. You can't sink unless you choose to let the water inside you.
I don't understand the thought behind things like this. I've been insulted and put down my whole life, don't you think I've tried to not listen? The person who did a lot of it is who I first heard the theory from. "It's self esteem only you control it" no, if I'm put down I don't have the confidence TO ignore it and it just gets lower. It seems a little like victim blaming to me. "I know the other person is who said it but it's your fault if you let it get to you"
The thought process behind just not letting it get to you tends to come from people who actually don't let things get to them, myself included. I personally don't care what anybody besides a select few think of me. So when I'm insulted or put down i simply laugh it off and tell them it was a nice try or jokingly make fun of them back. Some people care too much about what others think of them so they can't ignore insults and put downs.
To #12 and #13 - This thought process can be learned with training. I believe even the most difficult problems and mindsets can truly be mind over matter at the simplest level. Sure, it's extremely difficult. Sure, it takes time. You can't go from no confidence to suddenly having a lot of confidence. It doesn't work that way. You don't just flip a switch over night. It takes experience, reflection, and a lot of personal growth. And it's not an easy journey. But it's worth it once you're there.
It's a lot harder than it looks, though. I've gotten insults over numerous parts of my body, and I've only become more confident in some of them. I'm happy with my big nose, bushy eyebrows, and slight cleft chin (I got crap for those when I was fourteen-ish; I'm 21 now, so I've grown into them), but any comment about my weight would really hurt because I'm still sensitive about that. Even though I'm more confident in my appearance now than I used to be, it was a process and still is. You don't just snap your fingers and become more confident and thick-skinned.
Some people are just assholes. Sorry OP, don't let it get to you
I have been called flat chested even though I have DDDs. I've been called fat even though I wouldn't call myself than and have been told that no one could ever love my fat body even though I love my stomach fat and my chunky thighs. I love my chubby cheeks and neck chub that comes from having an enlarged thyroid. Some people just spew out bullshit to try to offend you. Even if you are an A cup and have stomach fat, that's perfectly fine. Your body is amazing as long as you are keeping yourself healthy. Every body type is beautiful. It took me a long time to love myself and I hope that someday you can love your body even when other people try to put you down. Your body is beautiful. Love yourself.
I bet he doesn't have any self esteem and he insults others so they stoop to his level and he uses that to make him feel good about himself. Doesn't help that he's drunk either. Imagine what he's like sober. Oh god. No. Don't.
Huh, your bio... "Victoria Trad goth with a pinch of lolitagoth and cybergoth. Also a furry : fursona: izzy a large tolype moth/panda bat hybrid. Also a lunar pagan witch. i have a pet tarantula named Juyea." With a profile like that, are you really in any position to be oh-so-subtly mocking other people's lifestyles?
As someone who does know what lunar paganism and furries are all about, let me just say that yeah, you are an idiot and you do need to grow up. Nothing more pathetic than someone who chooses stuff like wicca and paganism. At least most mainstream religious people have the excuse that they were brainwashed into it as children. Pretty much everything these people are telling you is so true. And you deserve every last word of it for being such an unrepentant bitch to the OP. Maybe now you realize how it feels to be attacked for a choice you make that doesn't hurt anyone else. But something tells me you'll continue to be a shameless dickhead to people in life and not even have the decency to admit it.
Sounds like what pretty much every religion has ever falsely claimed. And it doesn't matter how good it may or may not be, rationally speaking you're an idiot for believing in magic and all the rest of it. And as a final point before I stop wasting time on you: even if the religion is good, you sure as hell aren't. You're just another edgelord desperately trying to feel superior by attacking people unprovoked then crying like a baby when you get the same treatment. So yeah, grow up.
The fact that you're a 21 year old conceited little bitch, and also someone who believes in having an alter personality that's a fucking moth panda-bat, pretty clearly exemplifies your lack of maturity and your IQ level of a peanut. Who the fuck are you to put others down when you're the one claiming to be a witch with a moth panda bat identity? Smh fuck off and sit in the time out corner.
I know the feeling. I was once having a great conversation with this guy and he told me that I was so fun to talk to that he almost didn't notice that I was fat.....