By silentsuzie - 12/02/2010 15:23 - United States

Today, I realized I can never live with my fiancée. A childhood of systematic teasing, abuse, and humiliation has made me terrified to use a bathroom around a guy if there's the slightest chance I can be heard, seen, or even have anyone know what I'm up to. Therapy has yet to fix anything. FML
I agree, your life sucks 33 352
You deserved it 5 439

Same thing different taste

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cursesonyourmom 1

buy a little radio and play it in the bathroom. even if your just putting on makeup. that way he can't hear you and doesn't know what your doing.

"If you have to shit, shit! If you have to fart, fart! You will feel much better for it." ~Mao Tse-tung

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Ellowise_fml 0

Run the shower :) This always helps me-- you can't hear anything over the water! But be sure to lock the door so he doesn't feel as though it's an invitation. I had the same problem-- but with everyone, even if it's my mom or best friend. Usually I'd go once in the morning, when the shower's running, then again at night either with the shower running or blaring my favorite songs and brushing teeth/ getting ready for bed :) He won't care-- he probably pees too right? But I know how scary and awkward and altogether painful this can be.... plan to drink less liquids during the day until you get more comfortable around him- this will help you need to go less and ease a little stress! Just go for it! xx Groetjes

MermaidSongXOXO 6

......I have the exact same problem about going to the bathroom, for the exact same reasons. That really sucks you can't live with your fiancee because of that :(

Jesus #44 that may be the most callous thing I've ever seen. yes you have to accept yourself for others to accept you... but it is a matter of accepting who you really are, not accepting that you are not the image of perfection.

Time to end things and get the help you need. It's not fair to him the stuff you're putting him through if he thinks you're in a serious relationship, yet you'll never be able to live together because you can't shit if he might hear it.

you should go jump off a cliff with your dumb shitt

Blatstuff 0

^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^ Human garbage.

ravensunnyd 0

who would tees some one so bad they had bathroom problems

I'm actually like that, to a degree. I used to be a lot worse, I would NEVER use the bathroom at a boyfriend's house no matter what. I've never been teased about using the bathroom (seriously, who teases someone about going to the bathroom?) and I have issues, so I can't even imagine how much worse it would be for someone with an actual reason to feel that way. I'm sure if you just talk to him, or as most people are suggesting, put the radio on, you'll be fine. Getting a new therapist might help, too. I hope you eventually fix this problem, and that your fiance is an understanding man.