By silentsuzie - 12/2/2010 15:23 - United States
Today, I realized I can never live with my fiancée. A childhood of systematic teasing, abuse, and humiliation has made me terrified to use a bathroom around a guy if there's the slightest chance I can be heard, seen, or even have anyone know what I'm up to. Therapy has yet to fix anything. FML
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  IDOLGIRL  |  0

that's why you get a place with two bathrooms, so you can have some potty-time privacy. if therapy isn't working, get a new therapist or a new type of therapy.

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  ImaginaryFoe  |  0

A lot of people have this problem. I only use a public restroom if I have absolutely no choice and when my husband and I first moved in together, I would wait till he left the house or went to sleep to use the bathroom. I didn't really snap out of it till I got pregnant.

OP, you need to tell your fiance how you feel and trust him to help you get past your issues. If you can't let go around him, it's just not going to work out.

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  Cristaderzi  |  0

Its not that simple when dealing with abuse survivors...
OP FYL
I wish I could hunt down your abusers and chop them up while they are still awake and allive!!

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  ImaginaryFoe  |  0

#88 It's probably because of all the crap pregnancy puts your body through. Things become very real when you're puking all day. I was in the delivery room with my friend and she shat on the table! A little tough to maintain your Vixtorian reticence after that.

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  riku3220  |  2

I dislike people with extremely irrational fears for some reason. You're an adult. GET. OVER. IT.

It makes me wonder how the hell some people can be afraid of all dogs because of 1 fucking bite or be afraid to expel waste because she was made fun of doing something everybody does.

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  carrie21_xo  |  0

183, so you're basically saying that if a woman had been sexually abused as a child, an as a result of that was terrified of men, she should "just get over it" because she's an adult?

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  Lichinamo  |  33

I have hemophobia, the irrational fear of blood, which scares and disgusts me to a point of sweating, panic, hyperventilation, and possibly passing out. You think that when I become an adult, I should 'get over it', even though I grew up with it and can't help it?

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  kapippenger  |  0

Take a shit with someone. Ask a really close friend to go to the bathroom with you or something and just talk while you do your business. That way it won't be so uncomfortable.

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  epoh_fml  |  0

I agree. Read the book "everybody poops." pooping is a natural body function--anyone who would humiliate you is not worth the air they're breathing.

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  Smith000006  |  1

I agree with number 7. You would think people would try to comprehend the fml they're reading before they post a comment making unfair critcisms of her bf. But I guess not!

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  alexFYL  |  11

that's what I do, I always play music in the bathroom no matter what so nobody ever knows if i'm brushing my hair, pooping, peeing, makeup, whatever.