By GhillieSuitsnBiscuits - 10/04/2016 20:53 - United States - Portland
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Wow sorry to hear OP, I'm sure her intentions were pure but sometimes people don't realise that pointing out such issues are upsetting.
I've had trouble with acne for a long time and just recently started to get it under control. Routine is a huge thing. It's about trying to find what looks best for you and doing it repeatedly. Another important thing is hydrating your skin since a lot of treatments can dry your skin. It can be a bit hard to suggest thing for people, different people with different skin, but I found using a few different things tended to help. I use a clean and clear and facial wash in the shower and then an Avon blackhead eliminator, toner, and rosewater each night. So that's at least my experience.
The problem is that she's a "nice jerk," and they can be so much harder to deal with. Sometimes they outright believe they just did a good deed and continue being oblivious, other times they do it on purpose so that they can play innocent when you, rightfully, call them on their bulls**t. It's hard to figure out how to react to them appropriately, especially when they're making you feel humiliated already. On top of that, like the other posters said, it's unsolicited advice.
I would not have been so polite OP... I'd like to think I could have found a flaw in her physical appearance and started giving her unwanted advice in return to show her how it feels... In reality I'd probably have panicked and resorted to profanity...
Sometimes people think they're helping but really it ends up just being rude. If you had asked for help then their actions are justified but it sounds like you didn't, so this person was just being unnecessarily rude albeit helpful. Your skin will clear up as you get older, don't worry about it too much.
Stay strong Op! Working in retail or the food service industry can open the door to some really odd experiences.