By GhillieSuitsnBiscuits - 10/04/2016 20:53 - United States - Portland

Today, I had a lady come up to me in a store just to tell me how bad my acne was and what remedies I should use. I got so embarrassed, all I could say was, "OK" and, "Thank you" until she left me alone. FML
I agree, your life sucks 20 565
You deserved it 1 467

Same thing different taste

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Wow sorry to hear OP, I'm sure her intentions were pure but sometimes people don't realise that pointing out such issues are upsetting.

lexiieeex3 32

What the **** is wrong with some people... Social etiquette sure is dwindling, good God.

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ItsAnanya 25

Once when I was five or six years, on a hot summer afternoon, an old lady came up to me while I was playing in the park and started telling me how I should not be playing at high noon because my skin is dark and that apparently no one will marry me when I grow up. I'm still spiteful of her because of how terrified I was to go out in the sun for the rest of the year.

babywearingmama 3

I'm sorry you had to go through that. Cultures are cruel sometimes, my now ex husband is Indian and because I'm mixed race (black/white) his family disowed him because of my skin color. His family to this day refuses to meet our 8 year old daughter. One day the word will stop caring about the completion of ones skin. You are beautiful, don't let anyone tell you other wise xo

ItsAnanya 25
ItsAnanya 25

I am really sorry that your in-laws have treated you like that and that even your daughter isn't melting their heart. After travelling around, I've realised that people are always going to desire what they don't have ( Everyone seemed to obsess over my caramel skin in California whereas I'm pretty sure I wouldn't be fair enough for Indians even if I bleached my skin white ) Also, if your in-laws are that close minded then I am sure that no contact with them is a blessing in disguise as you and your daughter definitely do NOT need any more negativity around. Best of luck!

Sorry, OP. I hope that store sells common sense and good manners, because that lady needs to start stockpiling it.

Just walk away. It's not her job to tell you what to do.

Next time lean in very close and whisper 'it's not acne'. Then breathe on their face.

LOL! I think #19 found the cure for noseybitchitus.

moosecrofts 19

I'm really sorry that you had to go through that, but at least now you have some tips and you'll never have to see that fuckface again.

Was this at a beauty supply store and she was trying to belittle you enough that she could make a sale? That would be horribly shitty, but at least understandable. If she was just another customer that is horribly shitty and also plain bizarre.

I really hope the name for this is actually a list of her suggestions.

you should have told her "actually I have genetic acne and it's never going to subside"

@OP you shoulda told the old bitch to go eat a Sasquatch ****

born_hustla 26

I don't always know how to feel about situations like that. Coming from a stranger, I admit it's a bit ballsy. But if it's with good intention, I'd accept it. What was friend of mine was having a rough week and looked like hell. So I told her directly that she looked like hell and even offered to help and talk. We talked for a bit but yet contacted me later in the day to tell me how mean and f*cked up I was for saying such thing and told me not to talk to her anymore. I was confused and never responded. Was I wrong? So OP, I guess you can simply accept the advice and say ok and hope it helps. I honestly don't think it's a problem. Just my thoughts.

It is wrong, it's not like it's something the person doesn't know. I've had bad acne since I was young, I already have very low self esteem without some random person coming up to me to point out a flaw, wanting to 'help' or not. If I want advice, I'll talk to a doctor, not some ******* stranger. And I can't really blame that girl for being upset. If she 'looked like hell' because she was going through shit, saying that definitely didn't help! You could've offered to talk if you were worried without saying something that made her feel worse.

born_hustla 26

Hey I'm happy someone responded. So I'm guessing as a friend I can't be honest and offer to help and listen? I mean I would want my friends to be honest with me. Let me remind you, she was a really good friend of mine.

Why do you need to tell someone that they look like hell? Why is a simple "do you want to talk?" Or "you seem a bit down/upset" hard to do? If they DO have shit going on, telling them they look like hell won't help anything. It's negative, saying their appearance isn't up to par. If I care about someone and want to help, I'm not going to tell them that.

born_hustla 26

I pretty direct. I guess that's why :/ My tone was not harsh or anything lol. Because we did talk. But I guess she thought about it after and texted me later on that day. But she was pissed.

Even if you weren't "harsh" in the way you said it, I can see why she'd be upset. I wouldn't be happy if someone told me a looked like hell if I was already having a bad day, regardless of how nice the tone was.

It's called maturity. After you get out of preschool, no one cares about your sensitivities. I'm 30. People used to tell the truth to each other, and some of us are accustomed to that. It's the wussification in the generation in K-12 that's the issue (technically, those born before 2002 are Millennials as am I, but we're very different). When I was in a very good public school, you could be punished for "telling on someone", if the teacher thought it was petty. They considered reporting non violent bullying to be petty. This is because part of teaching a student, is teaching them to toughen up. If you say " I have low self-esteem ", that's something for you to fix, not for others to avoid. (And I have a degree in psychology, I know what I'm talking about). Old people especially, offer unsolicited advice. If you are upset by it (and other mundane occurrences), perhaps outside isn't a good place for you.

You seem to want to say a lot of things are "immature", but I'd say not knowing how to use tact is immature. My explanation and advice was if you cared about someone any. I fail to see why leaving out an insult is somehow dishonest. My self esteem is a problem that I need to work on, and one way I do that is by not having people around that insult or bring me down if I can help it. You have to deal with a lot of things in the real world, that doesn't mean it's right or you shouldn't have feelings. Id say wanting to say what you want and dismiss others as "too sensitive" is pretty damn immature. Feel free to provide any valid links to psychological evidence and facts to back yourself up.