By ashlee - 31/08/2010 18:07 - United States
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And not one person here who can think? Maybe the pictures are send to the wrong person by the boss by accident? it would not be the first time someone send naughty text and pictures to the wrong person. Maybe he has the same first name as his/her real lover. Unless you can see a actual respons from your Husband to confirm it is him you are allowed to kick his ass. Imagen how weird it must be to go to your work after you gotten such nasty images from your boss by mistake? On otherhand, maybe he was doing this all because you are such a demanding person and he really really needed that promotion/raise ;-) and then it is a YDI all the way.
147: Austin, yes, that's sexist, but at least you are aware of the problem, unlike the multiple posters on here who say that "all" or "99%" of men are dogs. The person who said "99%" is particularly disappointing because even her personal anecdotes didn't back up that belief.
152, quit venting. I've never cheated and I know a lot if guys who haven't as well so you're incorrect. You probably ended up with an immature douche who can't control himself because you're pretty immature yourself. 154, the way you say it sounds like you're going to end up cheating on him, heh.
Wow, 160. You're a douche. Take it from a girl who's been cheated on, about 99% of the time, no matter how devoted one is to a relationship, if the other person wants to cheat, then they will find a reason, even a stupid one like "this situation is somehow justifiable because she wasn't satisfying my needs." You could just be a big boy and communicate those needs, or just break up with the person for christ's sake, instead of shoving the blame onto someone else. No... regardless of the happiness of the relationship, a cheater will always cheat. Oh, and learn to spell.
102/135: Those are called "alienation of affections" lawsuits. They're only legal in about half a dozen states. According to wikipedia: The defendant in an alienation of affections suit is typically an adulterous spouse's lover, although family members, counselors and therapists or clergy members who have advised a spouse to seek divorce have also been sued for alienation of affections. They're generally considered out-of-date and irrelevant nowadays, but a few women have gotten favorable findings againt their ex husbands' mistresses recently. The laws concerning these lawsuits stem from the mindset of wives as property, though, so I tend to think they're silly, spiteful and degrading to the suer.
#5 - Speaking from experience...i.e. a really bad first marriage. It is not always about "giving him some once in awhile." My first husband kept turning me down because he was always "too tired." (Not to mention he didn't want to cheat on his bimbo a-la-carte by having sex with me.) I know...Now you're thinking I must have been ugly or something. No. I am very attractive. I now have a new husband, my HS honey, who has seen me naked in my youth and still thinks at 47; I am smoking hot.
For #100 - MetalFish or anyone else who [email protected] is my twitter account. The account photo is, I am somewhat chagrined to say, an actual photo of me. It is less than a year old. Generally, Gryphons are very modest and private about certain areas of their lives. Posting such a photo is highly unusual for me.
#5 - Then you missed the point that just because a dog chooses to eat sloppy leftovers out of a garbage can doesn't mean his owner did not offer fresh steak on a silver platter. i.e. It is not the spouse's fault when their partner strays. It is, however, ALWAYS the cheaters choice to cheat. Please note the lack of gender specificity in the previous sentences. Doesn't matter who starts it...Cheating is just wrong! It destroys families and causes lots of unnecessary pain to all involved: Especially, the children.
Wow! Text her back and say, "Are you planning to breathe tonight whore" Omg I hope your husband gets major karma and his 'Boss' too.
Ouch. That's horrible. I'd say kick his ass to the curb, but you've got kids to think about, so you might need to deal with this with a mature face in front of them. Though you can still kick him out. Though you might want to make sure this isn't a sick prank or someone he's pissed off getting revenge... Though I imagine it isn't.
I counted 3. :P And yes, it would really suck if it were a prank. I'm just saying that there might be an explanation that doesn't involve him cheating. But I don't think it was a prank. I was continuing my trend of calling for all the facts before judging. Or maybe this is a case where you should judge based on what's at hand?
People always act like it's a big suprise when they find this stuff out, what I have seen is there are some kind of signs nine times out of ten and when people cheat it's becauses thier partner is lacking something they wish to have, not saying it's always the partners fault mind you, I understand a partner not being able to be 3 diff girls at once. FYL for having to find out AND you have kids, YDI for not picking up on the clues (if there was any)
Well it's not like picking up the clues would've been any better, they still would've had to break up, and even if she did spot the clues maybe her husband would've just lied his ass off that it's not true, so then she would've been unsure of herself and maybe not break up with him(this happens a lot). At least now she has definite proof and she knows what to do exactly.
14, I disagree. You're supposed to trust your spouse. (even though most people don't) OP most likely didn't see the signs as she wasn't looking for them. Either way if OP is lacking something a certain characteristic, it does not justify her husband cheating. Maybe the husband was just acting differently, which does happen to everyone. If you're married and your husband/wife acts differently you can't just accuse them of cheating because they might not be. If he found someone else (which he did) and they carried that certain thing that OP was lacking, he should at-least have the decency to end the relationship before engaging in another. Nothing justifies cheating. OP didn't deserve it.