By Anonymous - 08/12/2011 11:55 - United States
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Come on y'all. I know most of you have never been through a divorce (neither have I) but when you have kids with someone, you'll have a link to them for life. Not an emotional one necessarily, but literally you're going to have to interact with them a lot as long as your kids are minors. If you're uncomfortable with your boyfriend interacting with his soon to be ex-wife, then end it now, because it's not ever going away.
You can't legally be divorced in Australia unless you are living apart for a year or more, once you are legally separated but not divorced you can see other people legally, without committing adultery. My boyfriend did this exact thing, except his wife moved back and he broke up with me because he thought he was doing the right thing for his daughters sake, it lasted less than a week before he moved out on his own. There's nothing wrong with being happy.
Stop looking at this as a black and white situation of she should or shouldn't be with him. People just need to understand that dating someone going through a divorce is not the same as dating a single person, and you need to accept that there will be situations that will arise that would not happen in other circumstances. Learn to be accommodating or wait until they're single. There is no right and wrong relationship in this instance as there is no ill intent or deception, but there is a right or wrong way to act.
A shelter help her find her own place. LOL I hate how people act like it's such a bad thing to be in a place like a shelter. It wouldn't be him "putting mommy in the homeless shelter". Since Daddy had nothing to do with her living situation turning up how it did. It should not be his responsibility to kerp her comfortable if she is healthy and still able to be a good mother without him moving her in.
Let's get real here. OP's boyfriend probably does not want his ex-wife living with him. But there are kids involved here who are already dealing with divorce. So, I think in the interest of doing what's best to maintain normalcy for the kids, this isn't a horrible thing. HOWEVER, it more than likely will confuse the FUCK out of the children to live with both mommy and daddy again. I'm torn. Might be a horrible idea.