By sicufovoshxbsjdk - 07/08/2010 02:22 - United States
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I wouldn't mind having my plot paid off. :/ To be fair, you never know when you're going to die. Furthermore, the distance could just be because all the other plots near the family have been bought. My father's family plot was divided after my grandmother, grandfather, and great aunt passed: my other great aunt and my great uncle had to be buried about a mile away.
72 makes a good point. If Grandma just found out *how* expensive plots are while settling her own affairs, I can understand why she might think it's a good gift, particularly since it sounds like a lot of family is or will be buried in that cemetary. However, it IS rather morbid, and she assumed a lot by buying it. So many things affecting burial can happen in OP's life, like settling in another country or converting to a religion with burial laws, like Judaism. (S)he could want to be buried next to a spouse, or be creamated, or donate his/her body to science. It's disrespectful to go against someone's wishes after death. My grandmother was buried, though she wanted her body donated. The family wanted to be able to "visit" her. IMO they should've donated her body and bought an empty plot and marker themselves, and used the money she left for what SHE wanted— charity.
You're lucky. What's funny is just this evening I drove by a cemetery and thought how lucky it is for those people to have had family that can afford to put them in the ground and give them a marker. So many people are forgotten- die without family- or family that can afford the expense in burial- so they are forgotten by time. I thought, I'll probably die alone, without family, and be cremated by the county who will dump me in a pile of ashes with other cremains in a pit somewhere. The weird part is the two mile walk. Oh, and the birthday part...but you're still lucky.