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These are the kind of reactions you can expect when you make comments about weight...sorry :/
I know I always struggle with what to say when someone starts complaining about their weight. I don't want to say something like "oh, no! You're not fat!" Because that really wouldn't accomplish anything if that person doesn't believe you, and something like "you look good to me" doesn't help that much either if the person doesn't look good to themselves. It's just a really awkward subject.
I've learned to not even respond, they eventually will stop saying anything about their weight. Or...There was this one girl who always complained about her weight but was in fact skinny. So one day her friend took her cookies and ate them cause "she didn't need the calories anyways". The girl never fished for compliments again.
It's all about subtlety. Ask them if they like the way that they look. If they say no, then kindly suggest doing a brief lifestyle makeover. Tell them it's about making THEMSELVES happy. Otherwise, tell them that they don't look bad, but perhaps they would look better in a different outfit (something black or any darker color, something flattering).
Yes yes, to 56 and 87 both you guys took the words out of my mouth. I get looked at like I'm crazy when I say I want to loose more weight because everyone already thinks I'm tiny but I don't see it. So yeah, not everyone who is a size 1 and complains is attention seeking, a lot of us have serious mental illnesses, so remember that next time before you think someone is just fishing for compliments.
If you don't like like the way you look, then change the way you look. If you have a serious mental illness, see your doctor, take your meds, and do your work. If you have mild insecurities, stay away from mean girls and fashion magazines. If you want a compliment, say "Tell me I look nice" -- asking for it doesn't make it not count. Otherwise, STFU.
I mean, he did say she would look good pregnant which means he thinks she's attractive exactly how she is even if she isn't the thinnest. It's a compliment. An ass backwards one, but a compliment all the same. Explain to him why that was a very poor choice of wording and get over it. Your guy genuinely thinks you're attractive, be glad.
Maybe OP wasn't fishing for compliments - she could have been seeking confirmation from her boyfriend - which I consider very different. Also! It doesn't matter if some people like "skinny" girls and some people like "fat" girls, people don't exist for the approval of others. So, if you're "fat" and feel skinny, if you're "skinny" and feel fat, or any mix - its no ones business but yours!
Did you make the comments about how you didn't look thin or him? Sorry I'm honestly confused.
At least he was being honest, that really counts in a relationship.