By Anonymous - 31/07/2012 16:17 - United States - Hudsonville
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81. First of all. Smartphone. I can do all three from a smartphone. Second of all. If it was late enough for her to pull of a fake "going to bed" goodbye, then it's probably late enough for him you be on the computer. Or do you expect people to never touch a computer and spend all day out and about then come home and sleep? Personally, I work 40+ hours a week, drive an hour both ways almost every weekend to support local rock musicians, AND spend time gaming and surfing the net. I also hang it with friends/family and occasionally swim. Do I not have a life?
Sorry to be mean, but that's just a bitchy thing to do. Don't waste your time on someone who isn't willing to be honest with you.
Not everyone loves texting. When I have someone continuously texting me I sometimes tell a white lie just to stop having to pick up my phone every 30 seconds. It's not that I don't want to talk, I just find texting tiresome. Maybe she does too. Lastly, texting someone too much can be overwhelming. Play it cool.
Also, she could've already tried to sound disinterested or quit the convo many other ways. Many people think you're rude if you just say, "Okay, I'm done with this, bye," so you let them down easy. If they're a bit daft, though, it's either bluntness or a white lie. Just so happens that she wasn't tactful enough to not make it blatant...
74- yes yes yes! everything you said is spot on. I feel the same way. Telling someone " hey I don't want to talk to you right now" is rude. I personally feel telling a white lie isn't that bad in this situation. Almost any way you phrase " I don't want to talk" will come out in negative way, imo.
I'm curious what people think: is it kinder to lie to someone in hopes of not hurting their feelings, or to be blunt and straightforward?
Blunt and straight forward...think about it like this-if someone lied to you about something, would your feelings be more hurt that they lied or if they had just told the truth in the 1st place? If the truth is gonna hurt someone's feelings I can only imagine it would hurt them worse had they been lied to.
Could depend on the lie. If you said something like 'no of course I didn't blow all the money you gave me for the rent on drugs!' then that might come back to you. But if you said something like 'no, I don't have any drugs to hook you up with on your roommates rent money' then you'll probably be the worst drug dealer in town, but it's not such a bad thing.
Well, I'm straightforward and don't sugar-coat anything. I expect the same in return. If someone lies to me, I won't trust them again. Small lies cascade into a big mess. And plus, i feel that if you think you need to lie to me, then our friendship/relationship won't work because you can't trust me enough to give me the truth. So it hurts worse in the end.
If that's the case then shes mean and probably cold-hearted you don't want someone like that in your life. The least someone could do is show a little honesty. It's better than being caught in mid-lie.
How do you all comment so fast!? Hurry must think of something witty to say- shit.
There is one good thing about the overrunning of social networking in today's society. That is that it's very easy to catch someone in a lie like this. Why bother lying at all? This girl is pretty stupid if she's going to tell OP something like that, knowing she has him on her Facebook page.
That's stupid. Why do people lie in situations like this? If she really wasnt interested, she could have said 'Hey, I really should go.' I never understood why you would lie. You can politely say the truth.
What's a polite way to say, "I'm sick of talking to you." "I'm sick of texting?" Then if OP was butthurt, she'd have to say, "It's not you. It's just texting." But maybe it was OP. OP hasn't told us if he's annoying and just doesn't know how to let a texting conversation die...