By Humiliated & Heart-Broken - United States - Fort Worth

The L Word

Today, I told my boyfriend that I loved him for the first time. The L-word is probably one of the only things I'm scared to say, so what did he do? He stared at me blankly before making a farting noise with his mouth and asking if he could go get Chicken Express for dinner. FML
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  jazzy_123  |  20

my bf was the first one to say it to me and I just stared at him and was like "oh... honey... I like you a lot too" and kissed and hugged him haha he definitely knew I wasn't ready though and gave me patience and time :)
it was such a surprise. I didn't think he'd say it first but apparently statistics show that men will likely say it first (3-4 months into the relationship) than women (5-6 months in).

  JBChristian  |  46

No. No it's not. My girlfriend told me she loved me before I told her. I explained to her that I'm not ready to say it until I know that I love her because I feel it's not a word that should just be tossed around. Now I'm in the greatest relationship I've ever had and with the one I want to marry. So no, just because he didn't say it back does not mean the relationship has to be doomed, but he could at least have given OP an explanation to why he didn't say it back.


You make a very good point #12 but at least you were respectful in your answer to your girlfriend. I also applaud your honesty and maturity when facing a situation that can be quite uncomfortable. However OP's boyfriend's answer was quite inappropriate. I mean I can understand he was surprised, but instead of dealing with it, he makes a fart noise and asks if he could get chicken... That's an emotional slap in the face.

  Demoniq  |  25

I agree with #12 - when I finally said it to my BF after 1 year & 6 months he basically pretended he didn't hear it. A week later he told me in the sweetest way that he felt the same... which I prefer as the immediate response would feel expected rather than heartfelt. We are still very happy and in the fourth year :)

  angeluv_2014  |  22

#4 is not necessarily wrong... He was probably referring to the response being so epically immature rather than just the fact that OP's boyfriend didn't say 'I love you' back.


Having unprotected sex while being a teenager is what causes teenage pregnancy. Nothing else. It's not as if being committed activates a secret hormonal response that prevents you from getting knocked up.

By  1happymummy  |  14

I said it too soon once, it sort of sprang out of my mouth before my brain could tell me to shut the hell up, his response was to widen his eyes in panic and say 'eh?!'. It was never mentioned again until a couple of months later when he said it when he was ready to. Don't be too disheartened :)