By Humiliated & Heart-Broken - 30/07/2014 04:41 - United States - Fort Worth
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my bf was the first one to say it to me and I just stared at him and was like "oh... honey... I like you a lot too" and kissed and hugged him haha he definitely knew I wasn't ready though and gave me patience and time :) it was such a surprise. I didn't think he'd say it first but apparently statistics show that men will likely say it first (3-4 months into the relationship) than women (5-6 months in).
Oof! That's rough. May be time to re-evaluate your relationship. Seriously!
No. No it's not. My girlfriend told me she loved me before I told her. I explained to her that I'm not ready to say it until I know that I love her because I feel it's not a word that should just be tossed around. Now I'm in the greatest relationship I've ever had and with the one I want to marry. So no, just because he didn't say it back does not mean the relationship has to be doomed, but he could at least have given OP an explanation to why he didn't say it back.
You make a very good point #12 but at least you were respectful in your answer to your girlfriend. I also applaud your honesty and maturity when facing a situation that can be quite uncomfortable. However OP's boyfriend's answer was quite inappropriate. I mean I can understand he was surprised, but instead of dealing with it, he makes a fart noise and asks if he could get chicken... That's an emotional slap in the face.
I agree with #12 - when I finally said it to my BF after 1 year & 6 months he basically pretended he didn't hear it. A week later he told me in the sweetest way that he felt the same... which I prefer as the immediate response would feel expected rather than heartfelt. We are still very happy and in the fourth year :)
I said it too soon once, it sort of sprang out of my mouth before my brain could tell me to shut the hell up, his response was to widen his eyes in panic and say 'eh?!'. It was never mentioned again until a couple of months later when he said it when he was ready to. Don't be too disheartened :)