That's quite a gamble, sir

By Enrique - 29/04/2021 23:01

Today, I called off my engagement because I fell in love with my best friend of 10 years since we recently reconnected. I confessed my feelings to her and asked her out. She rejected me and said she only sees me as a friend. Now I’m completely single. FML
I agree, your life sucks 215
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Let’s see - You had the beginnings of an emotional affair with someone and didn’t initially think of how that was going to affect your fiancé. Then you had an attack of conscience and broke up with fiancé - Followed by being rejected by the other person… Apparently you were not in love with your fiancé or the first step in this sad drama wouldn’t have happened. Your fiancé deserves better than to be engaged to someone who does not love them and is looking for a better choice. And you really shouldn’t be engaged to someone if you don’t love them enough to be faithful to them. So in its way, things worked out for the best.

I actually do want to applaud you for breaking up first before you decided to go for things with the friend. While it may feel sucky for your fiancee, at least you didn't string her along while you waited to see what your friend would say. And had you done that and gotten a no from the friend, the fiancee would just be you settling for someone you didn't really want. I wouldn't want to be someone you settled for because if someone better came along, you didn't really love me anyway, so you'd either stay and resent me or leave and we'd have to go through a whole divorce. I'm only here pointing out the positives to your actions so you do see that yes, it sucked, but I'm glad you at least didn't string the fiancee along just in case the friend said no, or hold on to both and cheat. It is better to be lonely than to be a cheater. Good on you for deciding to do the right thing and not cheat and to not settle and end up resenting her. Yes, you do deserve it, but really good on you for not cheating. You'd be an even bigger scumbag for that in my book.

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Let’s see - You had the beginnings of an emotional affair with someone and didn’t initially think of how that was going to affect your fiancé. Then you had an attack of conscience and broke up with fiancé - Followed by being rejected by the other person… Apparently you were not in love with your fiancé or the first step in this sad drama wouldn’t have happened. Your fiancé deserves better than to be engaged to someone who does not love them and is looking for a better choice. And you really shouldn’t be engaged to someone if you don’t love them enough to be faithful to them. So in its way, things worked out for the best.

Bird in the hand, Enrique.

Also completely stupid. Sorry, OP, but YDI indeed.

Sit still while I tattoo "Idiot" on your forehead.

I actually do want to applaud you for breaking up first before you decided to go for things with the friend. While it may feel sucky for your fiancee, at least you didn't string her along while you waited to see what your friend would say. And had you done that and gotten a no from the friend, the fiancee would just be you settling for someone you didn't really want. I wouldn't want to be someone you settled for because if someone better came along, you didn't really love me anyway, so you'd either stay and resent me or leave and we'd have to go through a whole divorce. I'm only here pointing out the positives to your actions so you do see that yes, it sucked, but I'm glad you at least didn't string the fiancee along just in case the friend said no, or hold on to both and cheat. It is better to be lonely than to be a cheater. Good on you for deciding to do the right thing and not cheat and to not settle and end up resenting her. Yes, you do deserve it, but really good on you for not cheating. You'd be an even bigger scumbag for that in my book.

Neither were right for you, and you are better off knowing that. You don’t want to wonder years later. Being single is also good; it’s a chance to better yourself, so you ‘ll be ready for someone that is right for you.

On one hand, you should have asked her BEFORE making any decision. On the other hand, maybe it helped you see you didn't love your ex wife-to-be that much.

bleachedraven 14

I can almost sympathize with you...almost. I'm sure being alone unexpectedly must really suck. Taking a gamble on an old friend you weren't in touch with isn't a good idea, but is a common mistake. You probably remember the old version of them. Our minds often live in the past romanticizing past events Goals and perspective on life change a lot in 10 years. However, you did learn that what you had with your fiance wasn't worth keeping...so that saves heartache down the road for both of you. Good luck in your love life. As mentioned, it's good to be single sometimes...take the opportunity to better yourself and not be so gullible. I hope you find your own version of happiness.

Your a scum bag !!