By Anonymous - 18/07/2011 20:21 - Netherlands
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if he was honest, he wouldnt have cheated in the first place. he was just confessing in hopes op would be a sucker with the same logic as you and stay with him. Cheating is cheating. Life is too short to spend it with cheating assholes who arent worthy of our time.
Losing faith in your gender? You honestly think that just because there's FMLs about guys cheating, that there's all there is? So what about the majority of girls who are dating truthful and good guys. Are they supposed to make FMLs saying "I just found out my boyfriend is incredible and faithful. FML." You'd see a hell of a lot of them if they did.
I'm losing faith in guys my age. But I'm hoping they'll grow out of it. I haven't had many relationships where I haven't dumped them because they cheated on me. I hope it's just their age. But I am loosing faith too. Sex is so casual now a days. I've been asked by so many guys to just have sex, and they don't want a relationship. And because I don't give out to guys I have only been together for a few months they cheat. I'm not changing my morals, and I think sex is way too casual. It is making me loose faith not only in guys, but girls too.
girls don't make sense either, i mean, they say they want romantic, but when they get a romantic( i don't mean cliché corny crap, i mean spontaneous and gentleman-like) man, they call him a creeper. Like a date i had, where a girl said i was to weird and then left , because i opened doors for her and offered my jacket
154 is right. unless you cheat and you're a complete asshole to girls that end up cheating on you or leaving you because when you're a gentleman on a first date they think you're a freak or something. honestly I would bet a 100 bucks that she is still with him because 99% of girls love to get treated like shit and the guys who would treat them right get fucked over because they call them creepers and all the other girls think that from then on. I say girls deserve it. it's what they want so they can have drama in their life.
Enough with the gender wars. There is nothing wrong with this generation's women or men. There is also nothing wrong with wanting to have a little fun; having sex with someone without pursuing a long-term relationship with them does not make you-or anyone else-a depraved, heathen slut. There are plenty of men and women alike who enjoy one-night stands, and others who would rather be intimate with that one special person. Some people may switch between the two, even. The point is- just because some people don't identify with your moral standards, that doesn't mean there aren't people out there who do, and it certainly doesn't mean those who don't follow your morals are bad people. Losing hope in men because they're interested in sex is, to put it frankly, pathetic and misandrist. As I said before, there are men and women out there who like sex and find it to be a great recreational activity to be done with whomever they see fit, and there are some men and women out there who find it to be an incredibly intimate, special act only to be performed between two committed people. There is nothing wrong with either! It is so ineffably silly to lose hope in men because they are refusing to adhere to your very archaic, narrow-minded moral ideals. Stop complaining and waiting around for the perfect man to sweep you off your feet and go get your hands dirty; don't expect the men to do all the work.
206, I agree with you completely. it has nothing to do with the generation or gender. There are both men and women out there that cheat and treat their significant others like crap. Some people are just bad people. People tend to make generalizations and many people expect a relationship out of a fairytale or a movie which won't happen. The right person will come around. People just need to actually look for them instead of waiting for the person to just find them.
#206, I find myself agreeing with most of your comment, but I also find it difficult to reconcile the fact that you say there is "nothing wrong" with either view (regarding the value placed on sex), with the fact that in the next breath you describe one of those ideals as being "very archaic" and "narrow-minded".
#254, allow me to clarify: there is nothing wrong, archaic, or narrow-minded in believing that sex is an intimate act to be performed between two people. But it IS narrow-minded to say that anyone who doesn't agree with that view is wrong or that you are "losing hope" in the people who don't adhere to the same morals that you do. I'm sorry if my comment was confusing; I was addressing #94 and her obvious disgust with men who like 'casual sex'. That's not cool.
I'm not disgusted by casual sex. If I can make that clear. I'm disgusted by the BOYS my age who think that sex is everything and the groups of people who look down upon me because I do want to wait for at least a year before giving myself up to someone. If full grown men want to go and have sex that's their decision, and I'm sure they don't treat women who save themselves for a bit as horribly as I've been treated. Yes, I'm loosing faith in the boys my age, and the girls because they help the boys be like it. But like I said at the beginning, I hope they grow out of it. Adults who choose to have casual sex can choose to do so. I don't think 13-16 year olds should be engaging in casual sex. Sorry if people don't agree and I'm sorry for causing such a debate.
104 is more then likely one of those people that goes around looking for anything and everything to sue someone over cause they don't want to work so they try and take money from people that have actually worked for it. only someone like that would say sue. it's people like them that make this world suck
More like 104 is not of those people who go on about kicking guys in the balls, thinking it doesn't do much more than pain. I can *somewhat* understand girls not being fully aware of it, but guys? You should be aware of the severe damage that can happen as a result of a kick in the balls. SEVERE, severe damage. If a girl cheats, you wouldn't say "you should beat her to a pulp" or anything, would you? In either case, the mature thing to do is just move on. Anyway, forget the fact OP's boyfriend is a cheating douche, how fucking dumb is he? I mean, seriously.