Don't you know that you're toxic?

By Anonymous - 07/07/2020 23:02

Today, I found out my girlfriend talks to around 18 other men for fun. She says she loves me more, but I told her to prove it, so I took her phone and deleted the social media accounts that she made just for these men. Now I'm a "toxic controlling monster" because I don't let her chat with random men. FML
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Well, she's right : she's an adult, she can talk to whoever she wants and being your girlfriend doesn't mean she can't talk with other guys and have friends (don't you talk with women other than your girlfriend?). You don't give any details about what she talked about with these guys. If it's of a romantic / sexual nature, breaking up seems advisable. If it's not, just suck it up and try to find friends or hobbies of your own.

Well, it pretty much shows that you don’t trust her. You should’ve had her delete them OR trust that nothing is going on. I understand how her actions are portrayed as emotional cheating. If she doesn’t seem to understand why you want her loyalty then Get out!

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Well, it pretty much shows that you don’t trust her. You should’ve had her delete them OR trust that nothing is going on. I understand how her actions are portrayed as emotional cheating. If she doesn’t seem to understand why you want her loyalty then Get out!

The fact that she made accounts "Just for these men" is very suspicious. regardless, I would actually recommend breaking up in this situation. not something I say often but either shes cheating or you have large differences values which is hard for even the closest of couples to overcome.

There is only one side of the story here and we don’t know what’s being embellished, but going on your partners phone and deleting personal contacts, is possessive and scary. If he feels like she is being emotionally abusive then he needs to get out of the relationship.

She’s a ho. Emotionally, if nothing else. Some guys are cool dating hoes. Most aren’t. I’m not and sounds like you’re not.

Yea, she had no right to do that. You should dump her.

Wow looks like we've found a worse controller!

Well, she's right : she's an adult, she can talk to whoever she wants and being your girlfriend doesn't mean she can't talk with other guys and have friends (don't you talk with women other than your girlfriend?). You don't give any details about what she talked about with these guys. If it's of a romantic / sexual nature, breaking up seems advisable. If it's not, just suck it up and try to find friends or hobbies of your own.

not being ok with taking too the other sex send to mostly be an issue with older folks, and it's an issue I don't have. The issue is that she made the accounts just for those men by the sound of it.

I had one of those girlfriends. Liking my (girl) classmate's picture is considered cheating but if I say something about her DMing and hitting on other guys I was toxic and insecure.

You are a toxic controlling monster. She's not chatting with random men but a carefully-curated list of those that please her. You're too insecure for her. You need to find a less interesting girl who wants to put up with your shit 24/7.

If sitcoms have taught me anything, you need to create 18 different social media profiles and catfish your gf. It's the only way.

Seems like too much work. OP should have cut off only one relationship with her. HIS OWN.

She should be able to do what she wants, but you don’t want to date a girl that feels the need to have so many guys chasing after her then you are totally in the right to leave her.

She should be able to do what she wants, but you don’t want to date a girl that feels the need to have so many guys chasing after her then you are totally in the right to leave her.

Seriously? Can you not take a hint? ydi

She can talk to whoever she wants, and you can leave whenever you want. Why you haven't done so already makes me wonder.