By mandybar15 - 14/12/2012 23:52 - United States - Norman
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10- Actually, yes that is ignorance. You said it yourself, they say what they see, and when they miss a few things, they don't ask to clarify. Ignorance when it comes to children is when they don't know any better. And in this case, that's exactly what's going on here
My unfortunate circumstance being that I didn't want my parents to split up. Now, after 18yrs, I am glad that they did. I didn't realize how abusive my biological father was. I haven't spoken to him in over 8yrs because of the things he did to me and my sisters... I only found out what he did to my mother in this last year. SCARY stuff.
Maybe you should have just stuck to washing her mouth out with soap.
I got a spanking when I was young. I learned my lesson every time. I was never whooped with a belt, but only threatened. I knew that my parents would actually do what they said, so being threatened with the belt was enough to straighten me out! We are not talking about punching a child. They wouldn't get bruises. It does not "fuck up" any child if they get spankings. It actually teaches them quite justly and well that something they did was wrong.
46 - Funny enough the majority of people I know who were spanked as kids turned out to be well adjusted individuals with good morals and values who respect their parents, whereas the majority of people I know who weren't spanked turned out to be the kind of kids who go drinking every weekend (I'm 17 by the way so this is underage drinking) and say things like "God, will you just shut up mom."
Okay, let people raise their kids how they want. Spanking is not child abuse, though I would never do that to my child when/if I have kids. My parents never hit us because they did not want to show us at all that hitting is okay in any circumstance. We got time outs and we were told that they were disappointed in our actions and that our behavior was unacceptable and to come out of time out after we had thought about what we had done and were ready to apologize. This was effective for me and my older sister and we are very responsible adults and always respected our parents. My younger sister had a more wild personality and would throw temper tantrums and not be pleasant at all to deal with and discipline, but my parents never hit her, and she still grew up to be a wonderful smart young woman and doesn't put up nearly as much of a fight as she would when she was younger. The point is that it is possible to be a good parent and discipline your kids without resorting to spanking or threatening violence if you are against that sort of thing.
I don't really like all these generalizations about people who were or were not spanked. Both my sister and I were. I have genuinely grown to fear angering or disappointing my parents due to potential consequences. (Pretty much, I'm Butters from South Park. You can imagine how much fun I am.) My sister has become resilient to all forms of punishment, and is one of those "God, mom, will you shut up" people. I personally don't think either is optimal. Is it solely due to the spanking? I don't know. But if you spanked your kids, and they turned out alright, it's because you were doing something else right, too.
#75 sure you can raise your kids like that and sometimes and they come out fine but it all depends on the kid. Personally if I was raised that way I would just do whatever the hell I wanted. I was whooped as a kid and now I am a lot more respectful and well behaved than other kids my age.
75- I like what you're saying. The spanking was my parents last resort. Everyone knows that even the best of children can be hard to handle at times. The spanking will also be a last resort for me when I am a parent. It will never come to that unless my husband and I have tried everything else, like the things you said your parents did to correct you, and it doesn't work. So to a certain extent, I don't like spanking either. But if nothing else works, I know that will.
what a little bitch, how could she lie through her teeth like that, knowing that what she said could ruin your relationship?
If she didn't know what she was saying, why would she say exactly that? I'm not implying that her intention was to ruin their relationship, but she's definitely old enough to try to shift the blame to someone else - kids start doing it before they can even talk properly. So, yeah, she's definitely a little bitch.
Wow. If I ever did that at my age, my parents would have probably tore me a new one, or just go through the tried and true method of sending me to live out in the backyard in a tent for an extended period
Dude, your daughter's a bitch. I'd go through and take EVERYTHING out of her room bar the mattress and two changes of clothes.
There is a reason that there this phrase is common... "From the mouths of babes". Children, regardless of age, can and will say things people don't want to hear. Sometimes the child doesn't have all the facts, but usually they are quite brilliant with the information that they deliver to us. OP may very well have a boyfriend, but then again she may have a friend that happens to be male.