By friend loves a gay guy... - 23/09/2013 20:49 - United States - Cincinnati
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Actually 30, (I hate breaking this down) 20 was just pointing out the irony in 10's comment. 20 wasnt saying her comment was an "oops" but that 10 said something that they werent going to say because it was offensive and 10 said it anyway. 20- that was a little humorous. but I am sorry I had to take the funny out of it by breaking it down. :-)
I really feel for you. I've been in a similar situation and your friend needs help and support. You are a good friend for caring, she obviously trusts you if she feels comfortable talking about it. Best wishes.
#24, agreed. After my father passed and my ex boyfriend sexually assaulted me, I spun into a dark hole of depression and self harm. My friends tried taking things away but when you're in that mindset, you find ways to get around it. I found a round skipping rock once and used that. A freaking round rock. It's almost like a drug, just taking away a drug cold turkey usually won't solve the problem. You've got to actually be there for them and show them their self worth.
As much as it would pain her to find out, she has to know. It would be far worse for her to think that there's a possibility that he could be interested in her, and then figure out that she was being lead along by her best friend. While it may seem like a cruel thing to do (especially after she just stopped cutting herself)...the alternative could have worse implications. But perhaps try to help her become interested in someone else before breaking the news to her. Better a gentle letdown than a huge one.
have him break the news to her, otherwise she won't believe you & cut you.