Not coming out yet, sorry

By KeEp.iT.A.SeCrEt - 17/04/2021 02:00

Today, a "friend" of mine told everyone that I had a crush on a girl I used to be really good friends with 2 years ago. I never liked her that way, and had said that only to hide the fact that I'm gay and don't feel safe with boys. Her current boyfriend is seriously annoyed with me. FML
I agree, your life sucks 788
You deserved it 168

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you need to have a talk with her boyfriend AND her. also dump your "friend", because he/she isn't a friend if they put you in this situation

That friendship needs to be reevaluated cause that was messed up. I understand why you wanna keep your sexuality on the low but maybe be who you are. Not saying you have to come out, but if you believe someone would harm you for your sexuality, maybe distance yourself from them as well.

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That friendship needs to be reevaluated cause that was messed up. I understand why you wanna keep your sexuality on the low but maybe be who you are. Not saying you have to come out, but if you believe someone would harm you for your sexuality, maybe distance yourself from them as well.

you need to have a talk with her boyfriend AND her. also dump your "friend", because he/she isn't a friend if they put you in this situation

Not sure these people are your friends. If you can't be out with them it shows a lack of trust and respect

No one has to be out if they don’t want to it’s absolutely up to the person to make that decision. If OP feels they aren’t safe to come out then they don’t need to, clearly with the “friends” they have OP might’ve been outed.

Idk what’s wrong with some of the comments on this telling OP to come out and being who they are around “friends” but no one has to come out of the closet if they don’t want to. Sorry that happened to you OP and if you can’t explain your situation to the girl and her boyfriend, distance yourself from them and try to move on. As for that “friend” of yours maybe reevaluate the friendship and see if they’re really worth keeping as friend. Especially if they caused this much trouble for you.

Come out, problem solved.

some people NEVER feel safe enough to come out.

bleachedraven 14

It's a shame that in modern times, people still don't feel safe "coming out." My friend of 5 years has been slowly but surely revealing her true sexuality and so far she has recieved tremendous support and encouragement. I could understand a bf being annoyed thinking you have a crush on his gf, but all that can be worked out if you even care about what he thinks. Be yourself.

I I think it's a shame that people have to "come out". A person's sexuality is nobody's damn business.

bleachedraven 14

very true, and to each their own...but why would you want to live in fear and denial?