By erphy21 - 26/09/2015 20:44 - United States - Lompoc
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Autocorrect. Do you want to actually try and give a reason why I'm wrong? You could just come up with another insult that has nothing to do with the subject at hand because you know you're wrong but don't want to accept it. That is why you come up with more insults to pretend it gives your stance value when it doesn't. If you happened to agree with me, what are the chances you would have pointed that out? Pretty much zero.
I'm pretty sure it should be common sense, and blaming OP for not telling his son, "gravity will not prevent pregnancy "... Well, did your parents have that specific talk with you? I think for a parent to do that would require assuming their child is an exceptionally special case, and would still be highly insulting for their child if the parents were wrong.
No, he didn't have to say it directly. Simply educating him on how a women gets pregnant and that a condom is ALWAYS necessary is enough for this to not happen. If you assume he couldn't put the information together himself, then he IS a special case and OP should have actually educated him more. Do you really think somebody with all the facts would still make this kind of miscalculation but still be completely lucid in every other facet of life? Nope. This doesn't sound like an "out of nowhere" moment of stupidity. His actions are OPs responsibility.
There's a LOT of myths on things like this. It's easy to say it should be common sense when you have an understanding of everything. I wouldn't fully blame the parent, it's just a failure of sex education in general. Not to mention this wasn't just op's son, but the girl too.
133 Actually, yes. I know some people who would make this kind of mistake knowing all the facts. And the fact that this kid is 18 implies that he does know all the important stuff. The most likely reason is that some of his older friends told him that and he was stupid enough to believe them.
Your son is legen-wait for it-dary...
That doesn't necessarily mean anything. The majority of schools in the US are abstinence-only sexual education. In my high school we learned a small amount of reproductive anatomy and STDs. My teacher said "I'm not even supposed to tell you this much, but if you're active, please use protection." So if that's all you would get anyway, skipping health class wouldn't make much of a difference.
It's not just the education system. Parents also find the topic hard to talk about. It's one thing to talk about it in a class, but a parent needs to be able to guide their children by advising and completely informing them about stuff like this. The schools are also at fault, but the blame doesn't rest entirely on them. On a related note, this really a YDI for the OP, his son and this girl are total dumba**es for not knowing that any position can get her pregnant.
When did it become the school's responsibility to ensure children are raised properly? They are not the wards of the State; they are in the custody of their parents until they are considered to be adults. Perhaps OP should have had a discussion with his son about this instead of relying on somebody else to rear his son.
They can only teach what they are told to teach though. The government dictates what can and cannot be taught, so if you're going to blame the school system, blame the government aspect of it, not the school. It is still the parents responsibility to teach their kids about sex. Kids should know all about it at least when they hit puberty, in my opinion.
Now, I may be incredibly incorrect on my facts here, so I apologize before hand if I come off as an idiot, I just might be. Wasn't there a study that showed that teen pregnancy is greater in areas where only abstinence is taught? I remember vaguely hearing something about this.
I don't blame anyone unless they are advocating abstinence only education. And yes, I believe I heard areas that taught more about sex and pregnancy have less pregnancies. Teens will have sex, it's that simple, but the education will keep things like this from happening by disproving myths and teaching actual protection methods.
My class were basically taught that the slightest drop of spunk anywhere near our bits could get us pregnant and we should treat it like biohazard material. Some girls still got pregnant pretty young, but I'll bet it was because they thought having a baby would be 'cute'. You can't out-teach stupidity sometimes.
Funding was cut to states that did not teach abstinence-only education following several teaching points, several of which were untrue. The trend is starting to reverse now, but many conservative states, such as my own Oklahoma, continue to believe it is an effective doctrine, despite the solid evidence against it.