By but I tried anal and everything - 22/11/2012 16:13 - United States - Des Moines
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54, your right, I know if my girlfriend proposed to me I would probably say the same thing. Mainly because I love pizza and because it wouldn't feel right to me. I always looked at it as, even the women can do as much as men, some things should be left for men to do and things for women to do. But that's just personal preference and for the record, I'm not one of those sexist pieces of shits who tell their women get in the kitchen.
The problem here isn't that the girl proposed … the real problem is that they didn't even agree on the idea of marrying. Plus, imagine the reverse FML, I'm sure the girl would've been several times criticised on refusing ‘such a cute proposal’. So yeah #84 is right, this response is sexist. The girl can propose if she fucking wants to. But the one proposing should always be sure that they're not going to embarrass their partner because they're not ready for it. There's no way she deserved it for proposing ‘instead of the guy’ or something.
I see nothing wrong with a woman proposing. HOWEVER, as a girl, I never would personally. Mainly because i think as men assume that they are supposed to propose, they probably won't do so until THEY are ready. Therefore, if he doesn't propose, chances are he's not ready to say yes.
Do girls want to propose? They haven't been cheated if they don't want it. The way I understand it, girls want to see their guy be humble and give them the power over something as important as marriage. Plus, it's more romantic to be asked than to ask. So it's not really being cheated.
#189 - Yes, some girls do want to propose. Hence the FML. And people (boys and girls alike) are taught that guys SHOULD propose, so of course girls can't really hope to. It's not that they wouldn't want to if they could, it's that they aren't used to thinking about it that way. If that makes sense. I mean, the reason men usually propose has to do more with the old patriarchal form of marriage that treated women as property and marriage as business than with women's desire to propose... So even though I know I'm going to be thumbed down for this, I think it's stupid to say that the guy has been "cheated out of" something. Women almost never get to propose, so it seems to me that they're the more "cheated" ones... And if they want to get married, it should be about loving the other person, no?! Not about who proposed to whom... Excuse me if I ramble, as it is late and I am full of turkey.
84, say what you want, but it is very un-manning to be proposed to by your lady in public. I want you to imagine what the male onlookers would think of the guy. A man you'd marry would probably give you anything in the world. Don't take from him the chance to surprise you and a chance to see he truly makes you happy
Well, idk about this... She could be the oag, or he could just not be ready, or he's not looking for marriage. This FML is a toss-up, ladies and gentleman
You might have tried anal, but did you try a homemade pizza? The way to a man's heart is through his stomach, ya know.
I'm not saying you're right, I'm saying either can and should propose and they shouldn't care what others think, and so arguing who should is pointless here. And I'm also saying that the human race can progress without both sides feeling obligated to propose and that a man categorically proposing has no real incident, so is not stopping human progression, but is however valued for equality. But it's not like women haven't already proposed, so this argument is going nowhere.
It could be that the man is embarrassed that his girlfriend had to propose to him. He could have been thinking of when his friends asked how he proposed to her, he would have to say he wasn't man enough. Not saying I agree with that, just what could have been going through his mind.