By new name - 6/11/2012 22:03 - United States - Storrs Mansfield
Today, I told my family that I wanted to change my last name to my future wife's. We want to have the same last name, and we chose hers because she is an only child, while I have three brothers. Half of my family is laughing and calling me "pussy whipped" while the other half won't speak to me. FML
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  Lindahhxd  |  7

I think you're extremely considerate for doing that! You're a great person, and obviously your brothers don't know what it's like to love a significant other very much like you do!

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  KaiserSD  |  8

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  KeannaLove  |  32

73- How is the marriage going to fail? If anything it's going to last because the husband proves he is loyal to her by taking her last name. Most men are to egotistical to do that. Congrats OP, I hope you have a long and happy marriage. :)

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  ThePK  |  5

No problem for you, man. You are getting married and starting your own family, whose priorities will now be the most important of your life.

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  Marrach  |  7

lol don't worry OP, your brothers are just jealous that no one will mistake your wife for ther fat asses. That's really sweet of you , congrats on the Fiancee..

By  pdp_fml  |  21

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  malait  |  23

In Sweden for example, the most common thing to do is change to the name which is the most uncommon one no matter if it's the man's or woman's name

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That must be a local custom then. I know of one (1) couple taking the least common name. Even though keeping your maiden name is becoming more common, most people take the husband's surname. Also, greetings from the capital!

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  tarasdp  |  6

I'm sure you meant this offensively but I just laughed my ass off reading this! I personally think it's cute that he wants to take his wife's name, but still that was hilarious!

By  ObsceneOblivion  |  4

I think it's lovely that you're prepared to do that for your future wife. Your family will accept your choices with time, and if they don't, well then I'm sorry you don't have a great family :/ good luck with your marriage though! :)

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  Ameel_fml  |  19

Same here. My step-brother never got married so he has no-one to pass the family name onto, so when I got married I decided to keep my maiden name so that I can continue the family line. There's nothing wrong with a with a woman keeping her maiden name, just like there's nothing wrong with a man taking his wife's name.

Whoever came up with these silly gender rules in the beginning probably got mocked for their ideas, and now that these "rules" are considered the norm, people who deviate from them are now mocked for straying from them.

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  lostmongoose  |  23

I believe the tradition is based on the old belief that a woman essentially was her fathers property until she married. Then she was her husbands property hence name change. Or something like that. I personally like the idea of taking both names.

By  TheOneTC  |  8

It's not the social norm. You had to know that you'd get ripped on for that.

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  kims0706  |  10

Why does everything have to be in the social norm? If humans throughout history always stuck to the social norm we wouldn't have many important historical moments that have effected us up to present day. And I could be wrong, but what I basically took away from your comment is that diversity is bad. Really?

By  1JDub  |  6

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By  Tdrizzzzzly  |  19

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  Shrike  |  22

Yeah, I'm sure you guys would be 100% behind him if he added: "... and service her man all day, cook and clean, and assume every other gender role from the 1950s." Yeah, I can see you being behind that, and anyone criticizing him should "grow up" too. Okay then, gents.

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  fuzz97  |  22

55, I've learned that on this site if your opinions aren't super super liberal/feminist/politically correct, then everyone will hate you.

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  Soloman212  |  28

83, as if everyone takes the last names of their wives nowadays, and the time of patriarchal marriage nomenclature has long drawn to an end, and anyone who still believes in it is some crazy old fashioned sexist behind the times...
Would you call a newlywed couple that did it the traditional way sexist and old fashioned? If so, then you have quite a lot of angry letters to get started on writing.

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  Soloman212  |  28

And he didn't even say it was wrong, he called it creative. He still wouldn't be sexist if he said "I prefer my wife to clean and cook, but it would be creative for a husband to cook the meals for a household."

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  Shrike  |  22

168 & 170 - Are you BLIND? The first guy did say it. Here, let me quote it for you since your eyes are malfunctioning: "I think the woman SHOULD take the man's last name."

I capitalized the "should" for you, since you apparently forgot to bring your glasses with you today.

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  Soloman212  |  28

Eep- I all but forgot that last part by the time we got this far in the thread. Sorry! :X
Although he still isn't against the man taking on the new name, just prefers it the other way. *Steps back into the shadows*

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  Coalke  |  5

No, it's just that, no matter what your views are, you shouldn't use them to put others down. For instance, saying he has no balls is unkind. Acceptance. If your view is offensive, try to keep it to yourself.

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  hayleyleyley  |  2

Sure, everyone is allowed to have and state their own opinions, since it's democratic and all. But I think the small ammount of support comment #10 gets would be even weaker for a racist comment. What if someone would have said "I think, in inter-racial marriages the least aryan person should take the other persons last name". I think that the reactions wouldn't have been "everyone is allowed their own opinion" but rather "I know everyone is allowed their own opinion, but that is just extremely narrow minded...". To be honest, as a woman and from a technical view, I don't see which comment is more narrow minded. Just to maybe make sense in why people thumb #10 down.

By  carakustom  |  8

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By  Racky_fml  |  14

That's a wonderful solution, ignore what everyone else thinks. She should be so happy she found such a nice caring wonderful future husband such as yourself!