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Ok, let's jump straight to the control conclusion, 22cute. To get there you've skipped straight passed traditionalist and possibly him being hurt because he tried to be all cute and romantic or something with what he said, and then she goes and corrects him so soon afterwards, it might feel a bit like a kick in the teeth. Maybe if she'd waited a bit he might've reacted better. We also don't know how she said it, and that he might've already explain that it was important to him for her to take his name and she went with it then. Though granted, he could be a controlling, manipulative bastard who she's better off without. Or a crybaby. Just throwing some perspective out there.

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In her defense it does say that she brought it up later. I agree with this comment that it was immature. I get why OP's boyfriend got upset, but it's not a real reason to break up for, in my opinion. If you love someone enough to want to marry them, this should be something you'd work out together.

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She said she told him later. She didn't break the cuteness of the moment. And if she had told him very later he would have reacted the same and probably would have blamed her for not telling sooner and «lie to him» or something.

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I'm sure she'll find someone else. Besides it sounds like they're both not ready for marriage if they cannot find some middle ground on such a basic issue.

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Well they could talk about why both of them want to keep their own names and see if they can work around either to come to a conclusion on the either or front. Or they could hyphenate, or some people officially change their names to a merge of surnames and stuff like that. Or, I don't know how common this is, one surname could become a middle name.

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*it's *you're *prestige *feminist Good lord, I hope you never breed. Any sons you have would be misogynists and any daughters would be sold for a sack of potatoes and a horse. I'm married and I kept my last name, thanks, but then again, my husband isn't a control freak with a constant need to stroke his own ego. Women aren't possessions, genius. If you want to take his name, kudos to you, but tradition has nothing to do with it.

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HahauRrcool, I think your attitude sums up why some women have problems with changing their names. If say there was an equal respect to either side changing their surname to the other - regardless of if one way statistically dominated the other -, then there probably wouldn't be any reasons why people'd object to changing their names. However, it is almost expected of women to change their name, and then that starts to feel like force and so some resist. Yes, I know that some do it simply because they like their last name and such, but that doesn't prevent both sides from coming to a compromise when respect and love are there.

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I don't need a name to know my mommy's my mum and my daddy's my dad. And besides until they come of age they will have both names, like Smith-Johnson, doesn't it show they come from both their parents ?

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When I get married, i'm keeping my last name. I am the only person left in my entire family with my last name. It's the only way to carry on my name. Maybe that's the case with OP.

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