By okay._. - 01/11/2012 07:54 - United States - Marysville
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I think you took him too literally, OP. Guys are crazy about the kinky cook. Just put on an apron, start cooking, and pasta might not be the only thing on the menu. ;)
Guys like this are not an embarassment to men everywhere. This guy just wasn't interested, and had possibly had a rather bad day. Women refuse offers lime this all the time, and make similar remarks in response. Nobody gives them too much shit about it. But guys are supposed to always be interested, and always have a super polite response. Fuck that.
There's nothing wrong with turning down sex. There is something wrong with being a douche bag about it. My boyfriend and I both turn down sex from the other every now and then, but neither of us are ever mean about it. This guy IS an embarrassment to men everywhere, not because he turned down sex, but because he was an asshole about it and played into sexual stereotypes on top of it.
That's just how I interpret it in the context. You can disagree if you want. In any case, he was being a dick. He could have simply said, "I'm sorry. I'm just not up to it tonight. By the way, would you mind making dinner please, baby?" instead of making her feel foolish when she was trying to please him. I'm guessing OP will be hesitant to be sexually spontaneous in the future because of this.
Why shouldn't they be, 79? And what 21 said about women rudely turning down sex all the time is bull shit. Whenever I turn down my boyfriend for sex I don't throw throw his advances back in his face with some smart ass reply. Men AND women should ALWAYS be considerate of their partner's feelings, especially when it comes to sex.
You can blatantly see OP's boyfriend said it as a joke, it's not a hurtful thing to say. If he said 'Get back to the kitchen where you belong, and I expect dinner when I'm home.' that would be out of order, but he light-heartedly asked her to make dinner in a response to her previous message. Even then, shes obviously home first which would be common sense to make or at least start cooking dinner so its ready for when the other comes home, and could be said both ways. Anyway I'm sure OP's boyfriend was having a joke and not be condescending, sexist or giving into stereotypes. Get over it...
That was perfectly reasonable and hilarious response! If he works hard and you're home first, why not get dinner started? Not like you can't have fun after you've had dinner! And he'll be more eager to thank you for it :)