Red flag day

By ConfusedAndHurt1997 - 25/11/2022 04:00

Today, there was an Instagram post featuring a couple’s vacation spot, saying, “Tag the one you’d love to share this vacation with.” My boyfriend tagged his friend he swears is “one of the guys”. Everytime I confront him over these red flags, he says I’m “overreacting.” FML
I agree, your life sucks 902
You deserved it 216

Same thing different taste

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He's gaslighting you and deep down you know it. I've been there, i know it sucks, i know it hurts, but the truth is you'll be better of without him in the long run. Normally i wouldn't recommend this, but maybe make a post in some big relationship subreddit or some other forum and mention all the red flags you mention in detail and also how he reacts to them. it will give you a chance to reflect while writing it, and stupid as it may sound, sometimes a 1000 internet strangers confirming what you allready know while telling you that you are better than this can be the push that helps to free yourself.

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He's gaslighting you and deep down you know it. I've been there, i know it sucks, i know it hurts, but the truth is you'll be better of without him in the long run. Normally i wouldn't recommend this, but maybe make a post in some big relationship subreddit or some other forum and mention all the red flags you mention in detail and also how he reacts to them. it will give you a chance to reflect while writing it, and stupid as it may sound, sometimes a 1000 internet strangers confirming what you allready know while telling you that you are better than this can be the push that helps to free yourself.

ODBeefalo 10

"one of the guys" is going to a sporting event they mutually enjoy, waiting for a video game to drop at midnight, maybe seeing some niche band play... standard bro stuff and mostly with other of the guys... a couples resort is not bro stuff...

Did he tag any of the other guys, then ok? But, If not, his tag is attempted coupling. Everyone knows this.

"One of the guys" in a Brokeback Mountain sort of way, I'll say.

You already know, but you're still there. You're the third wheel.

who's he known longer, cause it could very seriously be a bromance...also, has he told you he loves you yet?

kartagis 6

You know, this is the definition of gaslighting.

kartagis 6

You know, this is the definition of gaslighting.