Going to the gynecologist is supposed to be a responsible thing that an adult woman does to make sure she stays healthy. It is not supposed to be a punishment or a test to make sure children are vestal virgins. I can understand your mom being worried about you having sex too early (most parents worry about that with their teenagers), but making a stranger root around in your vagoo because she has trust issues is not only a huge invasion of your privacy and an abuse of her authority as your mom, but it also seems like a disturbing throwback to those times when people would throw bloody sheets out the window after marriages to prove the bride was "pure". TL;DR Your mom's a ho, bro. PS- The hymen is a load of crock and your gyneo won't know whether you're a virgin or not anyway.

#130 FTW! Your mom needs Prosak, OP.

I work in women's health, you don't need a pap or pelvic exam until age 21 I promise... and mo more annual paps unless you have had an abnormal

I had one when I was 18 to get birth control I was still a virgin so they didn't violate me. Hope it works out for you like it did me. Now that I am having sex it's awkward.

Oh, by the way, I just remembered... When I had my first appointment, as a virgin, the doctor did not actually perform an internal exam. She told me about birth control, which I was there to get, and asked me a few questions to make sure I knew about safe sex and didn't have any worrying symptoms. I don't think she even looked at my vulva. But she told me to reschedule an appointment in a few months' time, so that she could check that everything was in order. So if the doctor is professional, the OP may well not have to take her clothes off. Performing a virginity exam and telling the mother could even be illegal depending on where she lives.

I go for gynecology visits every now and then, because you don't have to be partaking in sex for certain tests, like the one for cervix cancer. I have been celibate for 8 years now but still make regular visits to give me ease of mind

yer mom is rude and overbearing!

A gyno can't tell if you're a virgin or not, unless you're a) pregnant or b) have had sex in the last 24 hours, max. There is no test for virginity, since so many other things can break your hymen (including the gyno). Your mom is 100% in the wrong and the doctor should have explained this to her.

lol Lucky me then. When I asked my mom about sex she said she doesnt care what I do as long as I'm safe. Then again I am 17

The fact is, nobody can force you to do it. If they do, it's sexual abuse regardless of the intent. While I'm sure it's a good idea, there's no need to do it that young. I'm 18 and I still refuse to go. If women have been relatively fine for 8000+ years, a few more certainly can't hurt. I would honestly rather die of cancer in the next few years than cheat on my fiancee with a hand or scope.