Today, I got a letter stating that now that I'm in my mid-twenties, I need to start getting cervical exams. The only people interested in getting anywhere near my vagina are doctors. FML
The exam has nothing to do with sex. It is about cervical cancer. Get the exam so when you do (and you will) have sex you will be healthy and enjoy it.
I was also in the "started seeing the doctor before being sexually active" club. Don't worry about it. Plenty of people will be interested down the line, all that matters for you is what you're ready for and what you want. I'm sure you even have people interested now, but are unaware.
And yet, when you are early twenties and you actually have a concern about that area, they don't allow/reject cervical smears....good job UK health system...good job :/ However, It's good they make sure to check at some point though.
It's better to wait to have sex than have it with some guys just because you want to. When you find the right person the sex will be amazing and you'll be very happy. If you just fuck some guy(s) it's not gonna be as enjoyable
A lot of people enjoy causal relationships and one night stands. Being in a serious relationship for sex isn't for everyone and that's okay too.
The whole "saving it for someone special" is one way to go, but not the only way and doesn't necessarily mean it'll be more enjoyable.
Let's not shit on people who prefer casual sex over serious relationships, experimentation is fun!
I experimented a whole bunch before settling down with my partner of 6+ years and it's fucked up how people slut-shame people who are just exploring their sexuality and just having fun (but remember to use protection and be safe!)
#4: Just because you find "the one" does not mean they're an animal in bed. It's not like some magical switch goes off and they turn into a sex-god. Second, casual sex is simply casual. Some people are into it and some people aren't. Casual encounters do not guarantee bad sex.
Now as to the actual FML, cervical exams are preventative exams much like a yearly physical. It also gives a lady a chance to talk with her doctor and get advice if she needs it.
I wish I had experimented more in college! But I'm a serial monogamist by nature and serious relationships just seem to be what I'm wired for. Whatever people are most comfortable with is what they should go for as long as they are safe.
I was a virgin for my first couple of exams. It was fine because the doctor explained everything and answered my questions about it. He also always had a female nurse there so I didn't have to ask for one.
I was also in the "started seeing the doctor before being sexually active" club. Don't worry about it. Plenty of people will be interested down the line, all that matters for you is what you're ready for and what you want. I'm sure you even have people interested now, but are unaware.