By preggersss - 19/07/2009 02:27 - United States

Today, I got sick in the airsick bag as my flight landed. The woman next to me, trying to make me feel better, says "Don't handle landings too well?" I responded "No, I actually fly fine, I'm just 8 weeks pregnant." She looked at my left hand, noticed no ring, rolled her eyes and looked away. FML
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You people do realize that not all people exchange rings when they are getting married. My cousins are SDA and they don't believe in wedding rings. They have three kids and I would hate for people to look down on her just b/c she isn't wearing a ring when she has been married for many years now.

Xinabeth 0

Some people don't believe in a god, so the choose to not be married under a god. Marriage is a religious concept; if you don't have a religion, why bother getting married? Just because someone isn't married doesn't mean they can't have kids. That lady was quite rude :(


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yeah shut the **** up, nobody cares what you think since when does being pregnant without being married make you a ****?

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You people do realize that not all people exchange rings when they are getting married. My cousins are SDA and they don't believe in wedding rings. They have three kids and I would hate for people to look down on her just b/c she isn't wearing a ring when she has been married for many years now.

Also, a lot of people forget that birth control is only 98% effective. It sounds like it's infallible, but when you consider that in the US 56% of the 300 million or so people in the US are between the ages of 18 and 65, and that 50.6% of those are women... With those figures, if I've done my math correctly, we have approx. 168,000,000 Americans between 18 and 65. If we apply the same ratio of women to the general population to this age frame, there are 85,008,000 women roughly of childbearing age (not exact, as most women don't have children for the last 15 years of that time frame, but bear with me). If we assume 64% of women (a figure provided from MSN's Encarta) are sexually active and using birth control, we have 54,405,120 women on birth control. If two percent of those women get pregnant on it we have 1,088,102 women in the United States who will become pregnant while using birth control as it should be used. That's not counting the women who will become pregnant while improperly using birth control. Just something to consider, and a fun little project for me to figure out!

Behold the religious right. Can't even spell "premarital" No wonder you all actually voted for Sarah Palin. She's just as stupid as you are.

You small minded little Bible nuts make me laugh. "No dick before you're hitched! GAAAAWWWWDDDD SAAAYSSS SOOOOOOO!!!"

Hey, be cool. Nothing he said was out of line. Don't make fun of his beliefs because they're not your own. And his misspelled word has nothing to do with the topic.

BWAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA!!!!! "Advocating sinfulness"? **** off, bible-thumper.

Eight WEEKS not eight months. She probably wasn't even showing yet, otherwise the lady would've noticed before talking to her. You can fly until you're almost 7 months along.

Hummingbird114 0

8 weeks pregnant is a long way away from your third trimester. Pregnancy is 9 months long, 8 weeks is only two months. She wasn't even finished with her *first* trimester. Seriously, learn math.

Read the Bible... I get told that one a lot. I've done it, actually. Quite a bit. I love how everyone seems to miss the whole "log in the eye" and "love your neighbor" passages. (Well, that and a few choice bits from the Old Testament and the Pauline Letters, but that's not why I'm here.) Here's the thing: while this woman's choice (if it was indeed chosen) may have offended your personal code of ethics (as it did the woman next to her) the fact remains that this does not warrant the withdrawal of love from her. Aren't Christians supposed to love the sinner and hate the sin? Sure, it was Ghandi that said that, but it seems to be a good summary of ideal Christian behavior. Wouldn't you agree? Regardless of whether you approve of a person's choices, simply dismissing them because of that is not an option for Christians.

I'm just laughing my ass off at everyone who thinks this girl "sinned" by having sex outside of marriage.

daydreambeliever 0

My favorite Gandhi quote is "I like your Christ. I do not like your Christians. Your Christians are so unlike your Christ." I believe that we should just love everyone. It doesn't matter what you believe. You still deserve respect.

daydreambeliever 0

My favorite Gandhi quote is "I like your Christ. I do not like your Christians. Your Christians are so unlike your Christ." I believe that we should just love everyone. It doesn't matter what you believe. You still deserve respect.

Wow, I thought we disliked judgmental people in this thread? I'm sorry but nothing was said out of line and you two flipped out and ripped on their belief and made all sorts of assumptions that were completely out of line, especially considering that they made no derogatory comments toward the OP in any way.

oh_dear34 0

#141 and #156: You are pathetic. If he chooses to not have premarital sex, that is his right. There's nothing wrong with waiting. In fact, I admire him for it. And he was AGREEING with you guys in saying the other passenger was wrong. Goodness. Can someone only agree with you and be praised for it if they completely and totally agree 100% with your beliefs and ideals? Get over yourselves, you jerks.

Actually, the pill is 99.9 % effective IF taken per the instructions. That kind of throws your figuring out the window.

okay, first off, are we in the 1700's? people that are born out of wedlock, are not called bastards. i personally am a child that was raised by a single parent, and ive never felt any different. times are change, learn to deal people. don't be judgmental, and if you are, keep your opinions about it to yourself.

Xinabeth 0

Some people don't believe in a god, so the choose to not be married under a god. Marriage is a religious concept; if you don't have a religion, why bother getting married? Just because someone isn't married doesn't mean they can't have kids. That lady was quite rude :(

Mulada 0

Now that's just disgusting. If anyone ever puked on me, I'd kill them. Bang!

soulonfire928 0

That is a horrible thing to say-kids born out of wedlock aren't considered bastards anymore. Get off your goddamn high horse for one minute. Nobody is saying that we hate the idea of marriage-rather that if a person gets pregnant outside of marriage, we're aren't the type of people to chase after them with fire and pitchforks. It happens, get the hell over it, nobody is a bad person because of it.

Aaaand you are full of shit. Having a piece of paper authorized by the government doesn't help strengthen any relationship bond - the people themselves do. You're a judgmental piece of shit if you think that the only people who should be having kids are those who are married. Thousands of people do not believe in marriage and have completely healthy relationships. Goldie Hawn and Kurt Russell, Farrah Fawcett and Ryan O'Neal, etc. Divorce is a hell of a lot messier than just breaking a relationship off anyway and considering the divorce rate is above 50%, I can sure as hell see why people are avoiding it. Don't be such a ****.

I wear my wedding band on my left thumb because I lost a bunch of weight and it no longer fits husband broke his while working in construction and hasn't worn one in years...but we are married. My sister never wants to get married, but she wants children...does that make her a filthy **** because she wants to choose invetro over having someone in her life that could possibly **** her over?

#68: my mom and dad never got married, my dads a total ass, but people don't walk around calling me a bastard! In fact, when I tell my friends, they're completly understanding of it. So stfu!

That's your opinion that it's not healthy. You can't support that worth shit.

annamg 0

Many people wait until marriage to have sex, and have great relationships and sex lives. It's YOUR opinion that it's "not healthy," and an ignorant opinion at that.

katieface 0

You will now be called a bastard as well. Congratulations.

MSJ91 1

There are also common-law marriages (Canada's requirements), where no ceremony is performed, but it "automatically takes effect once two people (of any gender) have lived together in a conjugal relationship for five full years." Or, you can apply for it earlier. I understand that some aren't interested in big fancy weddings (hooray for debt?!) or are scared that the relationship may fall through, and they'll be left with a big mess (which a pre-nupt can help with, if they still wanted a wedding), but the fact that a couple doesn't want to get married seems to demonstrate a lack of faith in the relationship (although it does not mean that the couple won't stay together). A married couple, I'm sure, is more likely to try counselling before pronouncing a divorce, and if they reconcile, they may save their children a lot of emotional trauma and trust issues. Then again, the kid might grow up happier not having a father than having the parents split up (and even more so if one of the parents doesn't see the kid at all afterwards). What the woman did was rude, but I don't see how the OP couldn't expect these sorts of reaction. Hell, the pregnancy might not have been her fault (although it most likely was in part); there are so many possibilities that make judgement difficult (which circumstances led to the pregnancy? is she mature enough? does she have the means to support a child? can she provide a healthy environment for the baby to grow in? etc.). If she wasn't ready for the child, however, I don't see how anyone can't agree that it was a mistake.

So I'm a bastard? That's weird, considering I'm not the one saying anything rude about people...

Right! And might I add, they are called LOVE children? LOVE, people. Isn't that what ultimately matters?

TrAnMu 0

Ummm. That's where your wrong. Yes a child born outside of marridge is called a bastard but I have never once heard someone call another a bastard because they actually are one. My best friend was born outside of marridge (His parents were later married.) but he is never called a and I highly doubt that he will be called a bastard. In fact, I never thought of him as one till today. So get with the times you judgemental a**hole.

jordanxfml 0

You have noo idea if shes a *****. people make mistakes and maybe it wasnt a mistake. my mom had me before she married my dad and theyve been together ever since. you have no right too judge.

marycontrary 0

I was raised in a very religious background, so I understand opinions on both sides of this argument. But, how could you possibly be so callous towards the OP and still expect to make a sound argument for the institution of marriage? People don't come to this website to be told that they are a ***** or a **** or have any insinuations made about parenting ability. They come looking for sympathy and support for their situation and if a person can not do that, then that person should just move on and keep their comments to themselves. And on another note, for all of the religious zealots who are condemning the OP, you should be encouraging her for making the decision to keep the baby instead of taking the alternative route. Making the choice to either carry a child and give it up for adoption or to care for it herself is a decision that I am sure was not an easy one to make. So why don't you chew on that little nugget of wisdom before you start casting stones, dear.

Why on earth do you need to be married? It's a religious, over-glorified, stupid waste of time. You need a piece of paper to prove you're in love? If you need that "reassurance," , maybe you're not ready to be married at all. It's not you're any more committed to the other person if you're married, there's not any real point to it besides the legal stuff. Religious retards like that lady are outdated. It's enough to be together and in love, that's all that you really need.

Sadae 0

Stfu just cause you were born in wedlock.

americayay 0

68, that's a horrible thing to say. 85, marriage is also a LEGAL concept and many athiests choose to commit to eachother legally through marriage. OP, you didn't deserve this, but people suck in general and you should probably get used to that reaction, especially when you start to show.

HarleyRider77 0

This is not an FML! Oh no! An old lady shook her head at you!

bastards are people born in an affair not two single people who dont get married

Um, that has been the definition througout most of history. And remains today for the most part.

Jazzywrites007 2

*starts playing 'Why Can't We Be Friends'*

Personally, my opinion is that marriage should be completely abolished from the legal system. I see no problem with bearing a child outside of wedlock - in fact one of my co-workers has had little choice, since she's a lesbian but wanted to parent a child with her partner. American culture still pressures people into following the beliefs and practices of a very small set of religions. Marriage seems to me to be an example of that pressure. I know people who have raised a child together 'till adulthood without getting married, and I know people who have been married longer than that without having children. Hopefully I'll be in that category when it's all said and done. :-D The most common reason that I've heard for why gays shouldn't marry is because "God defines marriage as between a man and a woman." I don't care what your God defines as what, and I'm disgusted that our government forces something like that upon people. DOMA - in case I forgot why I'm ashamed to be an American.

if you're ashamed to be an American, THEN GET THE **** OUT!! this country would be a much better place without lowlifes like YOU

but its true actually, a bastard originally means 'one born without married parents.'

Applejacks77 0

guys it's an fml. quit aruging. like seriously?!

danab_fml 0

when I was pregnant with my son I got dirty looks all the time. the older ladies are always so predictable. they see the baby belly and their eyes immediately jump to the ring finger. funny thing is, I've been married for 2 yrs. my rings cut off circulation by about the 6 mth. I hate those judgemental old hags

#68 a child does not represent the love between soulmate it represents a male and a female having sex!!!

#341- actuallythe original meaning for bastard is someone born out of the sacred time of the year. a long time ago, around when Jesus was born, you could only have sex during a certain time span of the year, so you would give birth in the sacred time of the year. if you had sex out of the time span, your children would be born out of the sacred time, and be a bastard. (I'm not a Jesus crispy, just telling a fact :) )

Because she's probably really 16. I'd roll my eyes too, possibly worse.

It's like one girl at work. She's been married for 20 years but doesn't wear a ring. Doesn't mean she's not married and doesn't mean that she had her children when she wasn't married!

Really? My family is Sda and they wear. rings. In fact I know a lot of ppl who r Sda and they wear rings too.

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they could afford to raise two kids, but they couldnt afford to go to the courthouse and sign papers?

My Dad wanted it to be special. Not a matter of signing papers before a judge. What's romantic about that?'s WORSE when you suddenly find yourself in a very old fashion family. My boyfriend's grandmother has promised that we will both fry in hell because we're not the same race! Apparently for really old fashion, Hispanic families, you're suppose to keep to your own kind.

That completely blows. You should really mess with the old bitch - make the fact that you're an interracial couple extremely prominent around her. For example, say to him "I just love your [race/ethnicity here] ****." while she's in hearing range. Make her as uncomfortable as possible, for funsies. She'll be dead soon anyway and is nothing but a racist bitch.

ihatestupidppl 0

Luckster, as a Hispanic woman, I apologize on behalf of that grandma. Our elders are REALLY set in their ways. I once dated someone who was half black, and my mom flipped shit. Ugh. But whatever, its what your boyfriend thinks that counts, right? :)

I believe that we shouldn't procreate outside of our race, not because I'm racist or anything just because I think that we are all different for a reason....that being said, I do not think you are a bad person or that you will rot in hell because of it....who died and made her god? Your inlaw needs to get her crap strait, because she's sinning just by telling you guys where you will go.

Interracial children turn out to be the prettiest of all ;)

jdawg777 0

interracial children are freaks. also, this is terrible that the woman had sex outside of marriage. you people are sick for thinking its ok

hopelessybroken 0

I want to know what your problem is? Personally i don't believe in sex outside of marriage either, but that gives you no right to judge people who do. And that's just racist to say that interracial children are freaks. pretty much everyone in america are interracial. If you want to have these opinions, fine. But don't go saying stuff like this to everyone else. I am pissed that you would even post a comment like this on here.

hey man. im an interracial child. why am i a freak? dont judge me. your so judgmental. GO TO HELL!

kcslgvr 11

shut up you ******* nazi. people like you have to realize that everyone started from one group of people so we are all from the same roots. it doesn't matter what the color of your skin is. we all came from the same people, so stop fighting it and accept it. it's fact. and also realize that not everyone is religious. you shouldn't freak out just because you hear about someone who is having a child while being unmarried. you don't even know the whole story. so sorry that not everyone is just like you. real christians aren't racist and care for others. you are a horrible and judgmental person.

Well there are quite a few savings, insurance benefits etc you can get being married, and it makes a lot of administrative stuff easier. If money is tight, why not just sign the papers? You are legally entangled anyway, and you can have a big wedding party at a later time. But hey - their choice, and if they look after their children well, nobody else should have a right to interfere in their affairs.

Some people think marriage is a little more special than signing a document. Perhaps, her dad wanted to give her mother the fairy tale wedding she deserved ??

I was thinking the same thing. I know people who got married and had a wedding later. But to each his own but if my mom got preg w/ me and she wasn't married, I'd like to know I'm worth doing whatever possible so I could be brought into this world with married parents. If that means foregoing a wedding so be it. But everybody has their own opinions...

I try not to form an opinion without all the facts, but I'm glad op didn't slaughter her baby. Faith in humanity + 10

mandapanda93 0

Shut up. Being unfairly judged doesn't hurt less just because you might not see the person ever again.

lilahhgee 0

What have we learned today? People are, always, and will be assholes. Well most anyway...

T9FTW 20

Well, what if she's just a true Christian?

I agree with #2, you should've poured your vomit on the bitchs face. A certificate doesn't mean anything. She should realize that, and get the **** over herself and her stupid ass morals.

Some people seriously need to get a life and stop being so judgmental.

morgan_5230 0

How mean of her! My parents didn't get married until after I was born, and I turned out fine. And you know what, even if you don't get married to your child's father, so what? You aren't a bad person at all. Sorry that lady judged you unfairly. :(

what a bitch, some people are so old fashioned, and don't know how to ajdust to changing times.

I would probably marry the father of my child before I got pregnant but I wouldn't judge anyone who marries after. I wouldn't mind if they didn't even marry. Just make sure that the kid is all right!

Shadow_Sniper 0

Don't worry about her. Times change and she probably hasn't.