By yonanon - 31/08/2012 12:02 - United States - Chesapeake
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Oh boy. Maybe you should be doing background checks? Good luck with the next one, OP. :/
If OP's date wants variety in his relationships, here's a thought, he shouldn't have gotten married. Yeah, I know there can be unexpected problems between him and his wife that arise during the marriage, then he should get a divorce instead of trying to flip between having two lovers, but it looks like the guy's wife is probably already onto the divorce thing.
You only hear the bad stories. There are a lot of guys being great right now but there are a lot (but a lot less) guys cheating right now too. Guys are always being douches just like more guys are being faithful at the same exact moment. And the same goes for ladies who in fact cheat at a rate that isn't vary far below the rate of men cheating.
It sucks to be the one being cheated with more than being the one being cheated on.
Sorry, but I completely disagree. The OP's (hopefully ex) boyfriend had children with his wife and has likely been with her for many years. While he obviously is not dedicated or faithful his wife has a lot more invested in their relationship than the OP. I'm sure that you can see where this would lead to more emotional attachment and therefore pain than a relatively brief affair.
Yes, 53, I imagine it's not a nice experience from either end. However, my comment was merely stating that the wife, and mother to his children had the worst end of the deal. Sure, it's unsettling to find a guy you've been dating is married, and a father, but nowhere near as bad as the wife if she were to find out.
I'd find his wife and tell her. I hate cheating people. Just stay single ha.
I hope you didn't have sex with someone you barely know. (If you don't know he is married, you barely know him, these married guys have "imaginary friends" people you never meet as if you are hidden, and are signs you should investigate. So if you slept with him YDI, but if you weren't that serious FYL! It really just depends.
11, Wait so if you're in a relationship with someone and you don't sleep with them and it turns out they're married you're a victim but if you sleep with them you deserve it...? How is having sex the decider in this? Is your world perception so sex oriented that it is the point of reference for anything anyone does? I can see you saying something really stupid in future like "It sucks that your grandmother died, unless she had over 3 sex partners, then the filthy whore deserved it", and then you'll learn the hard way why you're a dumbass.