If you normally do background checks on people how many times has this type of thing happened to you?

Oh my

If she did a background check, people would be saying , "Bitches be crazy! What a crazy stalker girlfriend!" YOU CAN NEVER WIN

Because you should normally trust your significant other. I'm sorry this happened to you OP, but don't let affect your outlook on other guys!

If OP's date wants variety in his relationships, here's a thought, he shouldn't have gotten married. Yeah, I know there can be unexpected problems between him and his wife that arise during the marriage, then he should get a divorce instead of trying to flip between having two lovers, but it looks like the guy's wife is probably already onto the divorce thing.

elena (#26) i think you misread

Girlfriend number twoooooo ***Pleasure P Voice***

You are literally too stupid to insult...

15 yr olds...

143- wrong comment

Good luck finding someone who will be cool with giving you a background check. What kind of psycho does a background check on evey single guy she ever considers going out with?

Not everyone online dates like you do, 1

Guys these like give the good guys (like myself) a bad name

Like what's up with guys being douches lately?!

You only hear the bad stories. There are a lot of guys being great right now but there are a lot (but a lot less) guys cheating right now too. Guys are always being douches just like more guys are being faithful at the same exact moment. And the same goes for ladies who in fact cheat at a rate that isn't vary far below the rate of men cheating.

Everyone'a a douche until you find someone who's truly worth the effort, no matter gender. Girls and guys are pretty much the same when it comes to this I would say.

There is no bigger asshole than the cheater with kids.

Well... At least he isn't YOUR husband. Poor kids.

65, Hitler never had kids...

99, I understand the point you're trying to make, but it's a terrible one.

99- I was obviously not being literal, mass genocide is far worse than cheating. I'm talking in a general, everyday sense rather than a "dark spot in World History" sense. Your comment was completely irrelevant and a little bit douchy.

Wat

Not necessarily. OP may well have only been dating him for a couple of weeks, maybe longer. Imagine how painful it would be to find out the man you'd married, committed to for life, and had two children with was unfaithful. It's clear who has the worst end of the deal here.

I kindly disagree as well.

18- you make a very good point, but it also hurts to know that that he (or she) is dating you while being "committed" to someone.

Sorry, but I completely disagree. The OP's (hopefully ex) boyfriend had children with his wife and has likely been with her for many years. While he obviously is not dedicated or faithful his wife has a lot more invested in their relationship than the OP. I'm sure that you can see where this would lead to more emotional attachment and therefore pain than a relatively brief affair.

Why was 3 thumbed down? She makes a good point, but i don't really agree with her though.

I don't know about that....it sucks either way, because either way you're being played.

93, Your comment was bad and you should feel bad.

It does suck to find out you are the one being cheated with, especially of you really had no idea. But a wife and kids definitely wins. At least OP didn't have kids or anything with that sleaze.

both are fucked up

Yes, 53, I imagine it's not a nice experience from either end. However, my comment was merely stating that the wife, and mother to his children had the worst end of the deal. Sure, it's unsettling to find a guy you've been dating is married, and a father, but nowhere near as bad as the wife if she were to find out.

Not. The girl moves on the wife is screwed

BULL SH*T!!!

American Dad did that too

Didn't the Simpsons do it as well?

College Humor would be proud...

Is the Family Guy one the episode where James Woods steals Peter's identity?

I don't think so. It was like a short clip where Peter got mad at Lois and was like "I'm going to live with my other family!" and he took a plane and got dressed in a taxi and ended up being the mom of like two kids and had a husband.. I thought it was pretty funny.

What's worse than the FML is your punctuation.

Am I the only one scratching me head at 51's comment?

She's Noor. Having ascended to FML heaven, she's allowed to have a couple of comment flubs

Noor was making fun of 5's punctuation, didn't realize it was that hard to tell.

At least it's not my spelling?

DOUBLE BIOTCH SLAP!!!

Funny how Doc's comment begins with, "Your best revenge will be to...."

Find his wife sleep with her and keep things even and fair.

I like your style evil one.

Watch out guys, we got an insanity wolf over here!

...........Umm, if OP knew her boyfriend was cheating on her in the first place, do you reeeaallllyy think that they still would have been going out?

When I was little, my mom got engaged and we lived as a family for years. Before they got married, it was then we found out he was already married with 2 kids. Some men are good at living double lives.

U don't make sense, the guy/dad is the bad guy in this fml he's the only hoe and slut.

11- She deserved to be lied to and cheated on? No. You deserve to be smacked for your stupid comment. No one DESERVES that kind of treatment. It doesn't matter if she slept with him or not. He's a liar and a cheater. He is the bad guy, not OP.

I think a lot of people really think they know someone and it turns out they don't. And some people are really good liars. It can happen to anyone, not just really naive people.

11, Wait so if you're in a relationship with someone and you don't sleep with them and it turns out they're married you're a victim but if you sleep with them you deserve it...? How is having sex the decider in this? Is your world perception so sex oriented that it is the point of reference for anything anyone does? I can see you saying something really stupid in future like "It sucks that your grandmother died, unless she had over 3 sex partners, then the filthy whore deserved it", and then you'll learn the hard way why you're a dumbass.

Don't you think he probably lied about being married? Why would OP just assuming he was lying. I would think if someone was looking to date me that they were single.