By Tara115 - 09/02/2014 07:20 - Canada - Courtenay
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I've seen a lot of people putting the bf down, we have no context to say he's a bad father. Possibly he just has commitment issues or a stance against marriage altogether. Either way OP has had multiple children with this man. I find it hard to believe some kind of marriage talk never came up beforehand.
80- there are people out there that don't need a piece of paper to determine that they will always be there for eachother. My parents split up 2 and remarried. After 26 years my mom still wanted out. Now they are divorced. That document claiming that your together can be signed just as easily as it can catch fire.
I agree with 24, this is an issue they should have talked about before bringing multiple children into their relationship and their lives. The irresponsibility is on both of them. I personally think that marriage should come before kids but only because if you can't make that commitment to each other, than you might not want to have children together as that is a life long unbreakable bond. I know some people don't believe in "marriage" but even those people have some sort of promise to each other and its normally discussed before the babies come. And really I could see one kid as an oh well it kinda happened and we love our child so we gave it a try but it disnt work, but to have more than one and not have an idea or even a talk about a life plan?? Thats just irresponsible!! OP YDI
Sounds like a poor excuse for some reason he won't share. You deserve better OP
#45 it wouldn't make sense that he's a sperm donor, considering that he kept (is that the right term? Correct me if I'm wrong pls and ty) the children. It would seem more likely that he was with another woman before the relationship with OP started. Just a thought.