By BellinaNico - 25/05/2013 04:40 - United States - Mcdonough
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Yeah it sounds like he's still living in Victorian Britain with a mindset like that, might want to rethink a few things OP.
I'm with #78 here. My ex called me on my birthday (back when we were together) and we talked for about an hour. Straight after she hung up I sat down to play my new game (I think it was LA Noire), and 10 minutes later she called me again, this time with her friend on the line and got all pissy when I said that we'd already talked loads and I wanted to play the vidya. I think OP is giving us the short version of something similar.
This should be a sign that your feelings are not now nor will they be his first priority. Dump that dick and move on.
Or it may be a sign that he actually has a life of his own and doesn't like to be interrupted while doing something that requires concentration. Sure, most games can be paused, but if you're marrying this guy, you should know by now how he behaves when he's gaming and you shouldn't be surprised if he reacts like this when disturbed. I can relate to OP's fiancé. I only call people or get called if an answer is needed urgently and we use texts for everything else. So if I'm busy concentrating on something and I get a call from my boyfriend, I pick up the phone assuming something's happened that requires immediate attention. If said call then turns out to be like this: Me: "Yes?" Him: "Hiiiii 8)" Me: "My phone is ringing. What's the matter?" Him: "Nothing, I luuuurv you 8)" Then yes, I am going to be pissed. Does that mean I don't love him? No, it means you don't misuse the "emergency hotline" for something you can say in a text, a sweet note, or when I get home. It's like calling 911 to wish the operator a good day.
So next time he tries to be frisky and interrupts your activities you yell at him and blame his "neediness" on the fact that he is hard. FYL.
Look at it this way, if there is little or no romance in your guy before you get married you are basically fucked from the get-go. Take this as a sign. A big red flag, and move on.
He's mad because you messed up his killstreak. This is why you don't interrupt ragey gamers, especially not during online gaming, where it's real-time.
I realise that. The first sentence is facetious. The second one is too, to a lesser extent, but also does serve as a warning that if you DO have a particularly game-ragey boyfriend, it's better to leave him alone- for your sake, not his. Regardless of who is in the wrong or right, if you want to be spared some yelling, it's the better choice. That is all.
Well, if she has such a game-ragey boyfriend who thinks its perfectly reasonable to yell at her for saying something sweet to him, then she should think about finding someone else who is more suited to her. My husband is a serious gamer, but he has never yelled at me for telling him that I loved him... And if he wanted to stay married, he wouldn't dare.
I feel as though there is more to this situation than meets the eye. Maybe the two have been fighting, aren't on the best of terms at the time, and the fiancé mistook her make up call as another cut at him. Even if this is not the case, I still don't see this as a reason for OP to leave her fiancé. This is one thing! Every person has their odd quirks and things that get under their skin. Being in a relationship is about trusting each other and learning how to make your partner happy. Interrupting the dude's game ticked him off, their relationship is young, and if OP wants it to last, she'll learn. Peace out. Pleonasm you're awesome.
Totally agreeing with you. If you can't pause the game, then you don't pick up the phone right away. And if PAUSING a game is too much hassle when your partner wants to talk, then you obviously aren't valuing them high enough to have a partner. Games don't spoil, they can always wait.