By blargh - 03/10/2013 17:39 - Russian Federation - Moscow
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I can understand being upset about the infant barfing on your desk... But how in the world is it f your life because she was breast feeding her child. Maybe the infant was hungry, and running on strict feeding schedules is difficult with children so you do what you can. Obviously she was ill prepared not being covered up, but still. She probably already felt bad about it, so I don't think it's f your life at all:P
Breast feeding is natural and if OP felt awkward could have simply asked if she had a cover or a blanket available. It's her right to feed her child. I know first hand how embarrassing it is I have a screaming infant in a college interview, or in a clothing section in walmart, or at a doctors appointment and I feel bad because people are staring at me, glaring at me, as though I am a horrible mother because I am allowing my child to scream in a store, but at the same time I cannot just "whip my breast out" to feed him because people will look badly at me for that as well. What am I to do? Allow my child to scream and cry because his tummy is writhing in pain from hunger, or make people feel awkward by "whipping out my breast" so I can feed my baby? Breast milk is better for my child than formula and it is my choice what to feed my child, why should I be criticized for that? Also, formula causes infants to spit up more often then breast milk and that is not something the mother could control. So, I ask the op, what would you suggest the mother do differently? Not feed her child and allow them to scream from hunger? Or feed the child so the child stops screaming. And hopefully she cleaned up the mess her baby made otherwise yea, FUL for having to clean up baby spit up. *end rant *
Sooo... I should get up and leave my OWN place of work, so someone else who has come in as a guest (because you may be a customer, but you are still a guest in my store) believes we still live in the Stone Age? I don't care about public breastfeeding, for all I care you run around topless and start dancing on a pole in the middle of the street, I really don't care. But I am getting tired of these pre-medieval BS arguments... There is a time and a place for everything and we have this thing called common decency, and she could have just taking a moment for herself to do this. Can I just whip my dick out to pee on the street anywhere I want? Why not, isn't this also a natural thing?
Did you honestly compare going to the washroom in public to feeding a child?? Do you really believe it's rude to feed a child in public? Do you eat in public? Feeding a baby is just that feeding a baby. It has nothing to do with common decency. Does a breast really make you that uncomfortable? There are so many things wrong with your comment, and way of thinking. You are a very ignorant person if you think feeding a baby without a cover is Stone Age!! You don't have to leave your work, just continue to do your job, like OP did. So the baby spit up, ya that sucks but honestly big deal
Okay look, if women want to breast feed in there own home that's fine. But I don't want some woman whipping out her tits to feed a baby. Get a bottle and use formula. Font ruin my appetite at a restraunt or my time shopping or whatever just because you don't have common decency enough to save that stuff for home. And don't pull that "it's natural " crap on me. It was food for an infant when times are tough and before we had formula and/ or processed baby food. We have it know, we're not in a time where you HAVE to breast feed. Keep it at home. (coming from a mother who doesn't and never Will breast feed )
Some of these comments are so ignorant it worries me what their children are being taught! I will not let my son scream bloody murder in the middle of Walmart when he needs to nurse. Breastmilk is the best nutrition for baby. If a mom chooses to breastfeed her baby why the hell should she formula feed in public to make you comfortable? What about her child's needs? If a woman's breast feeding a baby-which is what breasts are made for and not just a place holder for feeding until "processed foods and formula" were created-than maybe you should reconsider some things in life. I've never heard someone tell a woman with half her ass hanging from short shorts and her titties popping over the top of her shirt that she's doing anything wrong. Maybe I don't want to see that. And you know what I do when I see it? I LOOK AWAY and go about my business. If a mom is publicly breastfeeding I will tell her what a great job she's doing and make sure she knows what she's doing is right. Formula was created for convenience as well as for women who medically can not breastfeed. While that's rare it does happen and formula is a lifesaver, but will never be able to replicate breastmilk. Feed your baby how you see fit but don't sit there and tell a mom to cover unless you're going to cover your head, yes have some decency when you NIP but a huge blanket brings more attention than a baby eating while a mom barely brings out her breast, there are ways to discreetly breastfeed with no cover. Some of you need to stop being so ignorant before you begin commenting on this topic.
FOR FUCKS SAKE, THIS IS NOT A 'BREAST IS BEST' RALLY. To be perfectly honest, i'm not comfortable with breastfeeding in public, for myself, and because I know it makes others uncomfortable, which is FAIR ENOUGH. You can't control what makes someone uncomfortable and it isn't fair to shove it in their face when they just want to eat their lunch. It's not that damn hard to use a pump and feed breast milk from a bottle. I know at least 4 other moms that admit they only breastfeed in public to 'make a statement' that it should be acceptable, and it drives me crazy because 2 of them used to be made uncomfortable by the very same thing before they had children. It's selfish, the least people can do is have a bit of respect for other people. You would NOT whip your breast out in public if you didn't have a child, because you wouldn't be comfortable doing so, and you know it would make others uncomfortable, so why is it so different when there's a child attached? I mean, by all means if you use a blanket like a lot of women, good on you and continue, but the people that do blatantly parade it as if they are daring someone to be awkward about it are wrong and petty, it's not fair and you aren't the only person that matters, you're feelings and opinions on such aren't suddenly more important because you're the one with the baby.
I'm not concerned with anyone's feelings but my sons when I nurse in public. It is COMPLETELY different when you're feeding a baby rather than flopping your titties out to show them off. One is trashy and sexual. One is nourishing. I'd rather my son be happy and comfortable and include him when we go out rather than him scream to be fed and have his feelings hurt and his belly hurt. My son is my first priority not someone else's feelings especially when they can simply avert their eyes. Don't like it don't look.
I feel uncomfortable when I'm walking down the street and I see a guy reach down and scratch/adjust his nether-regions, or when a couple, gay or straight, is making out. However, I don't tell them to stop, just because I feel uncomfortable. If I'm uncomfortable, I leave or I look away. Easy as pie.
I don't care if you breastfeed or not, but taking tit out at a WORKPLACE is just rude. There's a bathroom, you can get a blanket, or even just a warning, but no one wants to see your tits. Of course it's natural, but it's disrespectful to just whip your tit out suprisingly. I don't care if you do it in public, just a little warning would be nice and courteous.
Why the fuck didn't you tell her here the bathroom was before it got to the puking stage? When someone is that much of a hassle just get rid of them ASAP.
I can't handle the ignorance. As a nursing mom, yes, I breastfeed in private, but feeding your baby from the mom's boob is pretty frickin natural. Society has sexualized boobs, I see it as feeding my baby. And by the way, breastfeeding is HARD so you should applaud women who can nurse. Not every mom CAN do it.
As a woman who nurses her daughter in public you can kiss my ass on me nursing in a dirty disgusting bathroom. How about you go then to eat your lunch and then tell me it's ok or when you have to shop yeah I nurse and shop at the same time just because I have a baby I refused to be shamed into hiding a beautiful and natural bonding experience that is the most nutritious and healthy thing to feed an infant. I bet you wouldn't have a problem if a woman just pulled out her breast as long as there wasn't a baby you dick.
28, 111 - I have no problem with public breast feeding, however wouldn't it get in the way if you were getting measurements taken? Would probably have just dragged it out longer and included much adjusting which wouldn't have been nice for baby. So I think in this instance it would have been better if baby had just waited. Or if they still had a lot left to do, she could have politely said that she'd need to take a time out and let OP get on with other jobs whilst she feeds in peace.
By the way, we choose breastfeeding also because it makes life easier. Why on earth would you : - pump your milk (not the best moment of your life, believe me, with all stupid jokes about cows and milking, plus it's not precisely pleasant) - clean a bottle - keep it cold during handling - find a place where you can warm it - jeopardize your breastfeeding (because when you do that, breast is not stimulated the same way, and baby can mix teat and nipple and forget how to suckle) - do the dishes later ......... When you have it all ready, at the right temperature, everywhere you go, in your breast ? All this just because some fucking selfish ignorant jerks can't stand to see a breast ? In a society that shows breast all the time ? The world is getting crazy !
#174 because why should we do what our bodies are meant to do? When we can waste our time finding the right pump, which cost loads of money, then you have to buy a bottle, or 2. Or 200, because face it, babies don't all take the same man made bottle nipple. Then we can begin pumping and attempting to simulate the same suckling a baby does just to produce small amounts of milk, but a bottle warmer, then while baby has been screaming bloody murder for the past 30 minutes while pumping we can take gassy pissed off baby, shove something unfamiliar in their mouths, all while our breasts begin spewing milk at the sounds of baby crying, while baby guzzles down the bottle, realizes it's faster and than denies breast, milk supply diminishes and suddenly it's harder than it should be. All because some sick individual thinks there's something wrong with nursing a baby in public, but not with a woman in a too small outfit letting her boobs fall out. Showing more boob and nipple than any breastfeeding mom.
Im a breastfeeding mom and hardly use the bottle but have brought one for situations like this in case my husband is with me and wants to help. According to Medela, La Leche League,Dr.Sears and Kelly mom you can leave breastmilk can at room temp for 8 hours. So you would not have to "keep it cold" and try to warm it up.I think the better response would have been for the mom to excuse herself, feed the baby, then start her measurements again. If I knew I was going somewhere specfic like a fitting I personally feed my baby before going inside.It makes it a more enjoyable experience for mom and baby.
187, I agree. She could have fed baby before but we don't know the moms side of the story. What if momma had been there for a couple hours, babies breastfeed often, as you know. If I'm making a trip anywhere I always feed my son before we leave and before we go in, there's certain circumstances where he gets hungry after 2 hours of shopping and baby's got eat!
#242.. I'm just imagining OP saying ma'am I need to measure your bust, the lady removing her infant and OP being sprayed with boobie milk.. I agree, she could have excused herself as she was clearly getting measurements, baby can't be expected to wait or eat in a bathroom as others have somehow justified in their brains, but she could have said, "excuse me please, I need to feed my baby, do you mind if I feed in here" and OP would have then been able to excuse herself to give mom privacy or just averted her eyes while taking a break, if need be.
I'm all for public breastfeeding, it's not sexual or anything but that was te wrong place and wrong time
So a young kid shouldn't see a mother nourishing her child? I don't like it when a women just completely exposes herself when she's feeding her child but to say young kids shouldn't look is stupid. You can easily turn the experience into a lesson on how to take care of a child. I do agree that she should have been more considerate of how the OP felt.
I used to nurse my daughter in public. Ex: walk the mall. However, no one ever saw my breasts. They have sheer cool blankets that I would use as a cover up. To the untrained eye, it looked like I was just putting my child to sleep underneath. If I went to the restroom etc... Every time my baby was hungry, I'd have spend half my life in there (plus I hate nasty dirty restrooms!!) I'm 100% for nursing your child in public but know first hand it can be done discreetly. I did it that way for 11 months.
Okay, go eat in the bathroom and tell me that it doesn't gross you out . Babies immune systems are very weak and bathrooms are absolutely nasty. Especially public ones. I would rather embarrass myself by showing strangers my chest than feed my children in a fucking bathroom.
As a breastfeeding mom, it is nice to know that there are people out there who support feeding a child in public. Although I pump milk for when we go out, I have no problem with mothers who publicly feed. But I do agree that maybe it could have been done a bit more discreetly. I probably would've done the same thing if my daughter was screaming - I would have a blanket on hand to cover me just in case.
I don't get why 43 was downvoted. He/she isn't saying never breastfeed, or denigrating breastfeeding mothers, just that it would be more appropriate to cover up beforehand. I'm all for breastfeeding, but last weekend, I was at a cafe at a communal table and the woman opposite me literally flopped her breast onto the table before picking it up to feed her baby. True story. Put me right off my eggs.
I been waiting for this one!! First, it's such a shame that society sees breast as a sexual body part. It's not. It's for breast feeding! Why do you think boobs increase during pregnancy! Woman should have the right to do this in public because THAT IS THE POINT OF BOOBS!! In Africa, for example, grown woman walk around naked breast freeing and no one shames her. Nor do male get boners when they see them! It's perfectly natural! OP is one of those people don't understand! A real woman should BREASTFEED if she knows what's good for her child! The baby grows up to be healthier and smarter (this is proven!!) and kids SHOULD see this! This how stuff really is! This is the purpose of boobs! Little kids should KNOW this!
89 not all mother's can breastfeed. my oldest was not breastfeed, it wasn't something that was going to work for us at that time. My youngest is breastfeed. It doesn't make someone any less of mother if it doesn't work for them breastfeeding is fucking hard and not always does it work. That doesn't mean my older son is going to grow up unhealthy and stupid compared to my younger one. personally the fact that so many people think a bathroom is an appropriate place to nurse disgusts me. I don't even like using public washrooms to go bathroom why on earth would I feed my child there? My child hates being covered and pulls the clothes down fuses etc... it's more distracting having him fuss that way than have him nurse uncovered. I do use nursing rooms if it's convenient, if not stop looking at my chest and you won't see me breastfeeding.
Its horrible that people still expect mothers to feed their infants in germ filled washrooms. OP didn't state babys age but the younger they are the more often they feed. Some just can't wait. And I dont believe the mom just "whipped" it out. I've never wittnessed any bfing mom do that so abruptly with someone they don't know. I bf in public doesn't matter where but I do try to time feeds around our outings to avoid that
89, I'm going to give you the benefit of the doubt and assume that you meant "all mothers who CAN should breast feed." Otherwise, I have to agree with 128 - just because someone cannot breast feed does not make that individual stupid or unfit. And I'm sure that children who eat formula or alternative food grow up perfectly healthy. I think that the way you put it may be slightly offensive to a some people. Because like others have said: breast feeding is hard, and it does not always go smoothly, regardless of whatever you've heard elsewhere.
I'm glad that a lot of malls and stores up here have set up rooms specifically for nursing mothers if they want privacy. I have absolutely nothing against public breast feeding, it doesn't bother me one whit, but I know that personally, I'd find it difficult to breast feed in the middle of a food court with the inevitable stares from people who don't get it. But I think OP is in the wrong, here. It sucks that the baby barfed on your station, hopefully she offered to clean it up. If not, THERE'S your FML.
Did you hear about the woman with wooden breast implants! The baby would be getting splinters wooden tit?