By oddbrien - 13/12/2016 03:34 - United States - Baltimore
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So...a girl was honest with you about what she wanted from her evening? ...poor you?
"Today, I was at the club, a creep who kept on looking at me throughout the night started to dance with me, so I told him I'd rather dance by myself. He took offense. FML."
If by "talk to girls" you mean "start dancing behind them so the girl has to turn around to tell you off", I sincerely hope that you're right, and fewer and fewer guys are doing that. I've had quite a few "talk to me" like that in college. I and every other girl just loves it when someone suddenly grabs us from behind and grinds on us (or even looms for that matter). The girl's response was polite and to the point. Instead of learning his lesson, OP comes here to bitch about it. I think 'creep' covers it quite nicely.
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wow.. harsh people. I thought of that too, but I'm going to give him the benefit of the doubt. I'm sorry that you mustered up the courage to try and dance with someone and they blew you off! If you were checking her out "all night" it obvs took you a while. keep putting yourself out there and be respectful, soon you will find someone! :)
If the music was really too loud, he wouldn't have been able to hear the girl's response. And even if it was, he could at least have smiled and made eye contact to see how she reacts. The fact that she had to turn around means OP just went up behind her and started dancing (possibly against her). Now maybe OP was just trying to be smooth and had no bad intentions, but I definitely feel the girl's reaction was justified and just a result of the way he chose to go about it.
Even if you give the OP the benefit of the doubt that he started dancing near her, OP you can't be upset she doesn't want to dance with you. There are so many reasons why she wouldn't want to, and most have nothing to do with you. Good on you for putting yourself out there, next time make eye contact, or get her attention.
I severely dislike it when random people start dancing me. Especially from behind as I can't see what they are doing. It's a big pet peeve of mine and I find it super creepy to boot. Though I may overestimate the creepiness level due to personal reasons that I will not go into. I still have the right to not dance with random people. I know it's hard to talk in a club (big reason why I personally prefer bars), but at least say "hi" to her face first and ask if she would like to dance. you still might get rejected (that's life. sometimes you get rejected), but at least it wouldn't come with a potential side dish of resentment/disgruntledness from the girl. It might take more courage to ask first (though I don't understand how myself), but it will probably be worth it in the long run to do such. If someone is mean about rejecting a dance proposition, that would more of an FML. At least one that would garner more sympathy from others, including myself.
Wait, so you walked up behind her, got close to her and started dancing without her noticing until she turned around? That's not creepy in the slightest. Now you just need to throw in a pedo-stash and have stared at her all night to complete the uncomfortable trifecta.