By failure - 16/07/2009 16:25 - Canada
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Can I just say, kudos to comment #1 for keeping it short, sweet and neutral. Maybe it was to make the comment shorter to ensure getting the first comment, but as open-minded as I try to be, it was hard to read this FML without the words "COMPLETE FAILURE" ringing through head.
i'm with #49. i have little respect for people who fail their classes as it is, but unplanned pregnancy on top of that is a double whammy of failure. OP, do the right thing and get an abortion. seriously. if you have that kid you're not only fucking up your own life, but his as well.
#49 How do you know the Dad won't stick around? Is he your friend? Idiot... Not everyone whos 19-22 leaves their baby momma with all the responsabilities, frigg I was 19 when I married and were still happy and going strong! And no he wasnt 45, he was 20. So don't assume everyones like your daddy. OP Sucks to be you man, but college aint for everyone, I flunked my first year, but then I studied a trade, now I love what I do and have a great life. As for the kid... Think about it, if you're really ready, you're in canada the A word is freee! Accidents happen and that's what that's there for.
@253: the fact that you say "frigg" makes me think you're not that much older than 19, so saying that you're "still happy and going strong" isn't that valid of a point... as for the OP... I kind of just shook my head when I read this. YDI. more than I can put into words.
Age matters now? If you were a 50 year old man and think the way you do, number 303, you would still be immature. Frigg is better than FUCK and a little less offensive. We have been married 2 years, we were dating for 3 before that, we do NOT have children, but he wants them BAD. So please tell me how you think that automatically a man empregnates a woman and runs? Not every man is like your father.
Ouchh, uhh, No offence, but perhaps you should have spent less time getting sex, and more time focusing on your failing education..
god i fucking hate when people make fun of other people for their grammar or spelling as a smart ass remark to something they say..... its a fucking website... and its fmylife.com at that. who really wants to add the effort of perfecting their comments through grammar on a fuck my life blog? shut up
Oh, woe is me. I shunned responsibility and slept around and now I want everyone to feel sorry for me...you brought this on yourself, now quit crying, grow up, and deal with it.
ok yes she fucked up. the first year of college is known to be difficult. yes she prolly should have studied harder. hindsight is 20/20. but why does everyone assume shes a slut and slept around? maybe its her boyfriend of 5 years who got her pregnant and hes the only one she slept with. maybe she waited til college to have sex instead of losing it at 14 and the first time ever got pregnant. all so quick to jump the gun and think uh oh youre pregnant you MUST be a whore!! grow up
That's what happens no matter what. An unplanned pregnancy always makes people call you a slut/whore, no matter what the circumstances. I mean even if you use condoms, they are only 97% effective, and that although it hugely cuts down the chance of conception, that does mean that 3 times out of 100, the condom does not work.
Uhm, I'm going into my second year of college and I haven't had sex yet. Does that mean that once I /do/ have sex, that I'm immediately going to be a whore? And what if I do have sex, and the condom breaks? Does that make me a whore also? Not everyone who has sex is a whore, and not everyone who has sex at college is a whore. God, do you people think before you type? Bastards.
Sorry 67 but it is YDI, there are other forms of contraception than just a condom. So yes, if you have sex once and the condom breaks and you get pregnant expect to be called a whore, or an idiot. The pill is readily available and easy to get your hands on, there are also other less reliable methods. At least she can abort, but it isn't going to help the failing grades. @ everyone, FYI general consenus from most unis say second year of college/university is hardest, not the first.
Alright, listen up, mate. I'm 25 years old, I'm engaged and I'm a virgin. It's not that I couldn't get laid. Gods know, I've had several women offer themselves to me, but I've turned them down, because I'm choosing to wait until after marriage. And don't try the outdated religious brainwashing line with me, either, because I'm not Christian, I'm Norse pagan. Frankly, I don't think the gods care what I do sexually. Secondly, it doesn't imply that I'm ugly or that I have a face like a bag of as*holes. In fact, I dated the homecoming queen back in high school. The reason some of us wait until after marriage is because we love our significant others, and wouldn't dream of disappointing them by throwing away the gift of experiencing that moment together and some of us may actually have a functioning set of morals, here. I realize that may put me in the minority in this place, but Hel, as an intelligent person and a pagan living in the Bible Belt, I'm somewhat used to that, lol.
my first year of college was a piece of cake, it was all "intro to being in college" and "these are what nouns and verbs are" and crap. my 3rd year was probably my hardest, because i had a lot of requisites to take (including neuropsych D:) but my senior year was all electives. i do think waiting until marriage is bollocks, though. what if the "love of your life" had already had sex with someone else? would you not marry her because it wouldn't be HER first time on the wedding night? how will you know you're even sexually compatible? (and i know sex isn't the ONLY component in a relationship but it is an important one. if you get along but you don't have sex, that's not a relationship, that's a friendship.) i can tell you this much, my first time was nothing special but it was still a great feeling. i think a lot of the people waiting for marriage have unrealistic expectations and are just setting themselves up for disappointment.
Um, no. And you'd have to be completely and utterly ignorant to even suggest that. Ever think that maybe some people choose to wait because they don't want to get into conundrums like the OP's (among several other valid reasons)? The fact that people come up with bullshit like this baffles me.
That pretty much sums it up. Face it, you F-ed your own life on this one, and I really have no sympathy if you didn't see this coming (particularly failing school). And if you DID see it coming and apparently didn't do anything about it... BTW, I don't see how an unplanned pregnancy is EVER a FYL as opposed to a YDI. It doesn't mean you were sleeping around (I hate people who say that having sex means sleeping around), but honestly, protection is easy. Buy a condom, and if it breaks, guess what? There are pills for that. Morning after pills. OR you can just go on the pill in the first place. I'm going to say that it's virtually impossible to become pregnant if you take all the measures against it, and it IS impossible if you're also judicious about when you have sex. BUT, your life is not over. If you're going to keep the baby, most likely you should either get your boyfriend to help you out if he's the responsible type, or move in with your parents (*gasp*) if he's not. Take a year off school and STUDY in your free time (not that you'll have much). If you're not keeping the baby, it's not a huge problem, so you just have to worry about your grades. Lay off the parties and fool around the bedroom with your boyfriend less (or hook up at parties less).
Hahahahaha @ 128. Believe it or not, there are actually people out there with respect for themselves and who /choose/ not to have sex. There are people who feel as though they are not emotionally ready to lose their virginity and are waiting for someone special, and it has absolutely nothing to do with how they look. Not everyone thinks their virginity is unimportant and try to lose it within the first week of entering college. Just in case you didn't know. @ 155 - Oh, trust me, I understand that there are several types of contraception, and I was certainly not trying to say that the OP didn't deserve this. I'm just saying that there are plenty of girls who may not have money for the pill or access in general and who try their best to stay safe via condom, and should not be condemned if it breaks. Oh, and I wasn't trying to get advice for myself, I was just using myself as an example.
First off, those of us who have sex before marriage aren't necessarily without morals anymore than you're without morals for being a Pagan. Secondly, a warning: One gripe I have with the "no sex before marriage" crowd is it makes sex seem like some magical, mystical thing. It's not, and your first time will not seem like a "gift." Sex only gets good with experience and a high comfort level with your partner, and your first time will not be that great. Since you're the guy, you'll probably orgasm at least but you will also probably last 30 seconds, tops. Your girl? She's probably going to be in some degree of pain, because a girl's first time is usually uncomfortable, if not painful. I'm not saying you can't wait until marriage, but don't expect some deep, spiritual experience the first time.
It really bothers me that everyone is calling her a whore/slut because she is pregnant. Last time I checked, women don't just get themselves pregnant- it takes two to tango. So somewhere out there, there is a guy who fathered her baby, but no one really has anything bad to say about him because girls who have unplanned pregnancies are ALWAYS sluts. All of you who think that need to stop being so simple-minded and have some compassion. And to those who are blasting her for her choice of birth control, you are jumping to a lot of conclusions. Nowhere in this post does she mention what form or birth control she used (or didn't use). Some of you are acting like if every woman in the world took the Pill, that would be the end of unplanned pregnancies. No method of birth control (besides abstinence) is 100% effective, including the Pill. Yes, the pill is 99.9% effective with PERFECT USE (meaning not skipping pills or taking them late) and around 96% effective with typical use (meaning the way most people use it). Even if you use it perfectly, there is a chance you could become pregnant. I wish everyone on here would stop acting like they are so perfect and have never made a mistake before. All that being said, OP I think you recognize you made some choices and now you have to face the unpleasant consequences that follow them. I wish you the best of luck.
wow, ok. so u thought u would get sympathy. NO U F-ed UR LIFE YOURSELF. congrats for failing at life.