make sure you tell her about her dad's refusal. Pour on the guilt! mwahahahaha

So when she broke up wiht you, you should have told her that. What the **** is wrong with you people, you let everybody ******* step on you and control your life. YOU DONT NEED HER FATHERS ******* BLESSING ANYWAY this is a free country and women do not need their fathers blessing, permission, or approval to do ANYTHING ESPECIALLY choose a man

There is nothing wrong with asking the parents. They will be a part of your life for evermore if she says yes. No biggie, it is a deeply respectful and courteous thing to do. Dashingly romantic as well. Did anyone else notice that OP's tag was K9-cop. I would never date one of those, let alone marry one. Good for you DAD!

Maybe tell her what you've been up to?

Look, the idea behind asking for the father's blessing is because you will be taking his place (for lack of a better way to put it) as the primary male in his daughter's life. It shows that you respect him and acknowledge all he has done to care for her and support her in the beginning phases of her life, and is meant to reassure him that you will do everything you possibly can to care for and support her throughout the rest of your lives together. The fact that the OP spent 6 months trying to gain her father's blessing doesn't make him a sexist, it just makes him an idiot. And before anyone jumps down my throat, I don't mean that a guy needs to care for and support a girl because she's a girl and unable to care for herself. I understand that women are more than adept at caring for and supporting themselves. I simply meant it in a mutual relationship sense. @OP, this really could go any number of ways, but mainly positively. You really were taking too long to gain the father's blessing, and it doesn't seem like you went into that as openly as you could have. You had 6 month's worth of opportunity, and if you couldn't find some common ground with him to resolve whatever differences you had, then sorry, but YDI. Regardless, if she broke up with you over not proposing in a 2 year relationship, then it sounds more like you dodged a future divorce than anything. In her mind, the idea of marriage (and most likely a highly idealized idea) is what is predominant, not you. SO, that being the case, the chances of the relationship living up to the highly idealized, fairy tale version she seems to have is slim. It's for the better.

wow everyone, theres seriously nothing wrong with being a gentleman and asking permission to marry her. being traditional isnt a bad thing!

I'm seriously shocked at the people who have implied that it the OP who ended the relationship (don't remember what number or numbers, what I know at least one or two did). She ended it, not him!

That sucks, but seriously, you only dated for two years and if she's willing to end your relationship for this reason, you're better off.

the dysfunctionalities of CONSERVATIVE parents and their families are endless... why didn't you marry her? **** what the old man thinks. 'oh, i need his blessing. please oh please, bless me, bless me and your daughter so we can be happy.' how does the love between two people have to subject to the government of the values of some freedom-crushing, old-fashioned fuckhead father? sorry for the loss of your future-wife.. but seriously, that was a big mistake on your behalf.. but then again, her mistake was trying to force you to marry her, then breaking up with you. dysfunct, ******* dysfunct.

Maybe her dads judgement was right after all! She needs someone who's not such a wimp.

FYL, but you should have told her that, and she could have helped convince her father.

YDI for caring so much about her dad and not taking yourself as the ultimate authority on this matter. I mean ****, I'm a southern country boy too, but there has to be a limit to this kind of shit. She'll be better of with somebody who has a bigger pair, who won't let her dad be the last word in her life. Creep.