By Sadtimes - 17/09/2009 17:44 - United Kingdom
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This isn't your fault, or the boyfriend's. Your sister is a selfish little bitch. She could have asked him if she was so impatient. By the way, if she really did want to marry him and spend the rest of her life with him, then why couldn't she wait a while longer? Obviously she didn't love him that much if she can just toss him aside like that over something stupid. He's better off without her.
geniusman calm the fuck down. the OP's sister dumped the boyfriend, because she thought she wasn't ready for a commitment. Now 4 years into a relationship isn't that bad, but maybe she just really wanted to get married. Now the boyfriend should have seized that opportunity to propose, unless the OPs sister dumped him online or through text or on the phone or something. Or why didn't the OP just tell her that he was going to propose? Either way the OP's life isn't fucked. It wasn't even about her except for the fact that she helped.
Hm. She wasn't ready for commitment, yet "she really wanted to get married"? Genius man is right, if she wanted to get married so bad, she could have either proposed herself (why the hell not?) or had a talk with her bf (of 4 years!) about it. Wow. What a ridiculous reason to break off a 4-year relationship.
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I agree, four years is a bit long. I think a year and a half to two and a half is appropriate. Three is pushing it. Four is ridiculous, and probably means he doesn't see you that way. UNLESS you are too young to be married, I say her sister made a good call.
2 months?!?! You and the boyfriend are both morons! Good thing your sister can get rid of the idiot bf, because there's not much she can do about you. Take a knee, hold up ring, say "Will you marry me?" What did that take, 5 seconds? It's simple, it works. Two months?!
I'll give you that your technique is more creative than mine. Mine has two things going for it: 1) It works in reality -- for me, it is one-for-one. 2) It has a less awkward "out" if the answer is "no." For me, I'd just get up, keep my ring and leave. You'd probably end up in jail with a ring. You might end up with a boyfriend or six.