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Why does she have to prove she's a good daughter? He should be proving he's a good father. Which will never happen if he abandoned her before she was even 'alive'. He has no powers a father.

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  bamagrl410  |  31

My dad abandoned my mom & me before I was born. If he were to come back into my life (assuming I'd accept it) & tell me to get rid of my boyfriend I'd tell him f*** you, he's done more for me than you ever have.

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  skinflint  |  6

#70: he left before you were born... according to your mother's version of events. there is 3 sides to every story. hers, his, and the actual truth. for instance. was it a love relationship, or just a hookup? did he even know your mother's last name?

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  bamagrl410  |  31

90 - Is that even relevant? The point is that OP should have stood up for her boyfriend instead of ditching him for someone who hasn't been very kind or loving in the past. It's called loyalty.

By  ouimetnick  |  10

Tell her she was ugly and you were going to dump her anyways.

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  me_gusta_eso  |  1

You're ugly and I was gonna break up with you also, 2. I saw you cheating on me so FUCK YOU BITCH!

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  cosmosis  |  12

OP's gf or now ex gf probably just used this as an excuse to break it off. Any reasonable person would tell the astranged father to f*** off... FYL op.

By  Poetaster  |  10

He is still her father. Not knowing the reasons why he wasn't around makes it tough to negate his position.

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  cosmosis  |  12

71- it clearly says abandoned. Not old poppa bear was thrown in the slammer and has now paraded back into ops life. Abandoned means he chose to walk out on the child

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80, whose to say his ex-girlfriend wasn't lied to as a child about her father? Or she could have even lied to Op about her fathers absents. Like I said before, there are many different possibilities.

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  Jirekianu2  |  19

There is virtually -nothing- that justifies a father abandoning their child voluntarily before birth. So, this man deserves no respect or special treatment. He wants love and trust he has to fucking earn it.

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  skinflint  |  6

#88: so you walk in on your GF bangin' another dude in your flat. you break up. 3 weeks later she tells you she's pregnant. do you stay? do you believe it's yours? or do you walk out until a paternity test can be administered?

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  jomith14  |  0

I think the father has a right to say if he wants to be involved with raising his own child, that's not fair for the mother to do that even if she doesn't want anything to do with the dad

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  Poetaster  |  10

Glad I could prompt some spirited discussion. Obviously there are issues here... Btw, I speak from a position of knowledge and understanding - my mother lied about my dad leaving here for many years only to admit he knew nothing of me until I researched it. Let he whom is without sin cast the first stone eh?

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  Poetaster  |  10

It's the mothers decision to raise the child alone??? Wow! Way to stuff fathers rights under the door. Read what you wrote... Do you really think a man has no decision as to be involved in his child's upbringing?? Wonder if most women think like you. Food for thought eh guys?

By  ohmandapants  |  16

Well really her dad has no say because he doesn't even know you or his own daughter, but she probably loves him regardless and wants to make him happy so that he doesn't leave again. I'm sorry OP, you'll find someone new! Edit: someone beat me to it.

By  amayasoma  |  19

If the father abandoned her before he might do it again. Even if she only dis it to try and keep her father around she shouldn't let him pick and choose for her. He hardly knows her. FYL OP.

By  ColtsDoug18  |  0

Trust me, it's hard growing up without a father. Once you Finally get what you've wanted for years, all you want to do is please them. FYL OP, but try to understand what she's been through all her life.

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