By Anonymous - 19/11/2015 14:52 - United States - San Francisco
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that's so rude of him. if I were you I would give him the silent treatment
What do you base that on? Do you personally know OP to know that she deserves better? Maybe her husband literally *is* working a lot, and likes to have a couple of beers after work? Maybe he works shit hours, or long hours? Maybe the preference would be to spend a whole day shopping for her, to get a nice present, and he doesn't have that time. She mentioned he bought a case of beer, but didnt have TIME to get her a present. Maybe the liquor store is right next to his work, and is super convenient. If he bought home a case of beer, and said "I don't have the money to buy you a present", then fine.. fml. There's a difference between time and money. I'll hardly even go into the reason we celebrate birthdays. All it means is you survived another trip around the sun. But maybe OP's husband surprises her with gifts, and nights out, on other days of the year. What makes a birthday so special? Maybe OP's husband is planning on a surprise dinner out at a restaurant when the two of them are free? Maybe it's booked? Maybe saying he "didnt have time" is a way hide the surprise? So... with the limited information we have... do you still think she deserves better? Or is that just a standard "fml comment"?
Celebrating someone's birthday is a nice thing to do for someone, 33, and you buy them a present because that's how birthdays go. On his, she'd do the same for him. We all get one. Are you an adult? Don't you know why birthdays are important to people? "But maybe she wouldn't and maybe he tried to get her a birthday present but aliens abducted him and he had to fight his way home and their only weakness is beer and--" Stop. He's a dude who, from the only information we're likely to get, didn't do anything for OP on the one day a year that should be about celebrating her existence, and instead gave a flimsy excuse. Her birthday present, on the one day in an entire year where he could have the appropriate opportunity and obligation to give it, was less important to him than beer he could buy on the other 364. That's just awful. If alcohol is so extremely paramount to either you or him that it makes sense to skip out on someone's birthday for it...maybe you need to reevaluate your relationship with it along with how you treat other people.
In all honesty surviving another full trip around the sun is something to celebrate. Nothing killed you in that whole year, I can bet more than a few things came close weather you know it or not. I've lost so many people over the years to everything from drunk drivers to cancer.. my birthday comes around and you can bet I'll be celebrating.