You'd better get to a liquor store and buy lots of whiskey. Not only do you need to surmount your anxiety, you're also going to have to be in a threesome!

Can someone explain this to me? Is this a thing that happens when ur married

No offense but alcohol does not solve anything. It will make things worse if you get addicted to it. Talk to your husband and get his help instead.

Sounds like you need to have a discussion with your husband. having your wife host your crushes party, I can’t tell if it’s ballsy or a lack of respect

dump his as!!!

Your husband has a crush? As in, on an actual person he can have contact with and not a celebrity he'll never meet? And he's throwing her a party and roping you into it? I don't think you should have to contribute anything, but you shouldn't be burying your problems in alcohol, either. May be time to see a counselor.

Wait, how are you hosting any party with social anxiety, much less one for someone your husband has a crush on?

Just say NO.