By Light Sleeper - 14/10/2012 04:24 - United States - Evansville
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Please inform him that's legally considered to be rape, if you haven't already! Surely most jurisdictions would have it down as so, anyway.
wlddog - No, NOT every guy has tried that, you jackass! If you have sex with someone while she (or he) is asleep, that is non-consensual, and it is therefore rape. Look up the definition before you go spouting off at the mouth, idiot. It is no different than having sex with a woman (or man) who is intoxicated and is too impaired to give consent. If you wake her up, then it's great night time fun. But if your sole intention is to do it without her waking up (as OP suggested), that IS rape. Full stop.
Technically it's rape, but honestly when you think of rape does anyone think of someone softly putting there penis in there live-in girlfriend's vagina. He was attempting to not wake her up. Let's compare your stupid way of looking at things to murder. It's killing someone. Do you consider all the surgeons that take risks on a dying person to try and save there lives, but fail, murderers? No harm was done so shut up about this being rape. He also stopped when she asked so, correcting myself, I don't believe this is a rape. But if you nerdy bastards have nothing better to do than search up the definition and it is rape, than like I said before, no harm was done so stop hating the boyfriend.
The rule with rape is that there can't be a reasonable expectation of consent. She's obviously not going to consent if she doesn't know, so this is rape unless she said "fuck me in my sleep" earlier (kinky). If he were trying to wake her up with sex, and they were sexually active together, then it's okay because it's fair for him to assume that she would consent as she woke up.
"f he were trying to wake her up with sex, and they were sexually active together, then it's okay because it's fair for him to assume that she would consent as she woke up." Not exactly. It's not because you are sexually active with someone, that this means you have a free-pass for sex whenever you want. It is NOT fair for him to assume that she will consent, because there's always a chance that she doesn't, which she has completely the right to. And then, boy, you will have to do lots of efforts and buy tons of flowers to make it okay.
MrCatman1125 - This is quite possibly one of the dumbest comments I've ever seen here, and possibly one of the worst arguments I've ever seen anywhere. How in the fuck does a surgeon who tries to save a life but fails even compare to this situation AT ALL? There's no comparison whatsoever, and the fact that your feeble little brain even conjured up this absurd bullshit has firmly convinced me that you are nothing but an imbecile. You obviously don't have two working brain cells to rub together. Please please please leave here and never come back. People like you deserve to have their mouths super glued shut.
Sounds like he gets off from stuff like that, that's strange. That or he is an idiot. Either way FYL.
Only solution for this is to duct tape your pajamas to your body to prevent access during the night. Trust me, it works. I haven't had the underpants gnomes steal my underwear in over 2 months now.
Yeah, you should tell him that's considered to be rape, relationship or not. Also you might want to look for a new boyfriend.
Because a) you can only speak for yourself, I and plenty of other people would not find it hot, and b) if you find it hot, mention it to your partner rather than expecting them to guess! And to preempt anyone saying "what if she mentioned it before" then please consider that FML is for people to post their annoying, sad, unpleasant and generally *unwelcome* experiences.
Wow Rattusrattus... Over-react much? I'm guessing you're like 16 because there are way more variables at play here than you're accounting for -Mature couples who have been together for a long time engage in activities like this all the time because there is a degree of trust built up. How else do you think people wind up having sex in the middle of the night? One partner is usually asleep and the other tries to rouse them sexually. I mean, would you be turned on if your partner shook you awake from a deep sleep and then was like "hey sorry to wake you, wanna bang?" Use your head before you jump on the rape wagon there, or maybe you think people should go to jail for giving wet-willies
To this situation there is no over reaction. She can have him sent to jail because he was attempting to rape her. Taking advantage of someone who isn't able to give consent is completely and utterly illegal. That is why you can't have sex with an overly drunk girl at a party. If she was fine with waking up to her BF trying to have sex with her. It wouldn't be on FML. They obviously didn't discuss this situation. He took it Upon himself to go ahead with our even asking. It doesn't matter if they dating it wouldn't even matter if they were married. That's her body and he needs to respect it. Period.
I hate to be a wet blanket, but I got snooze for your boyfriend - you can't just sleep it in without her knowing. It dozen't work that way. Snore't right to try that bullsheet anyway - wake her gently with kisses and pillow talk next time. Good luck.