By Clementine - 27/11/2012 11:36 - Australia - Saint Kilda
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I would very much prefer to pay for a girls meal and would insist upon it strongly, but I wouldn't get upset of they paid. I would be disappointed for not getting the opportunity to pay, but I would appreciate the gesture and get the fuck over it and be happy I am with such a considerate woman.
Some guys just like paying the bill :/ dont fret everyone is different. It makes us who we are.
It's common courtesy for the guy to pay. He did exaggerate, but he may have been having a bad day or something and OP's gesture made him flip out. You can't say whether or not he was a bad person and therefore unfit to be OP's boyfriend just because of that one episode. Talking things through would help solve the problem.
I agree that you shouldn't make such judgments from a single episode, but it's the guy who decided the OP was not fit to be his girlfriend after one episode; she's not really obliged to fix that for him. Though I disagree that it's common courtesy for the guy to pay. It's common courtesy for both to pay. It's kind of creepy if a guy (or girl, I presume) always insists on paying for everything, as if they don't think you can afford it or they expect something in return. Once is nice though, and not worth breaking up over.
36 - I have to disagree with your notion that its somehow "creepy" for one person to pay for dates. My hubby has paid for every date, meal, and activity we've done together all throughout our courtship and marriage. He's not looking for "something in return" and he didn't do it while we were dating because he thought I couldn't afford it. He did it because he considers it the courteous thing to do, as do most guys. There's nothing wrong with the guy wanting to pay, just as there's nothing wrong with the girl paying or the couple going dutch on payment. It sounds like you've had some bad experiences to have that kind of jaded view, as if people don't do nice things just to be nice. I would suggest relaxing a but and not assuming that every kind gesture has an ulterior motive.
44- That's the literal interpretation, not the metaphorical one, which is a lot more powerful as a word, and is a valid meaning of the word, too. Or would you have the whole human race stop talking in images, metaphors and analogies? "My plan just went down the crapper" "Aw, that's shit" "I'll say, I dropped it in while reading it on the toilet!"
What a tool. It was a very nice gesture OP. Now you can find someone who appreciates having a woman who can carry her own.
I'm starting to see why marriages don't work out well anymore. If people somehow make it past these TINY issues and get married, I sense that they still have the same stupid arguments, and then just file for divorce. Relationships aren't a walk in the park, people! If you aren't willing to work through your problems, don't date in the first place.