By NoRingForMe - 18/07/2012 17:03 - United States - Stamford
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I'm sorry your boyfriend fulled a romantic gesture and you're being a bitch crying about it on FML, OP.
Wow most of you cannot spell. But I see her point. Boyfriend pulls out a TIFFANY box. She is thinking it is an engagement ring. Of course she is going to be overly emotional. Then she finds out her bf just recycled a box to make something cheap look expensive. He knew that would happen. You can go to Walmart and ask for a box but he had to use the Tiffany one. Yes it was sweet he got her a gift but he knew what she would think.
No one looked at op's name? "no ring for me"? She thought se was being proposed to, not to get earrings.. Especially if they have been an item for a while. I understand why she felt iffy if se exapected a ring and got earrings instead. Would still be happy for the earrings though..
107, she wasn't being "greedy". if he gave her the same gift in a normal box, she would have been perfectly happy and grateful. but imagine what she's thinking: "oh my god, he's pulling out a TIFFANY box! It must be an engagement ring! (sobs hysterically) oh, its just a pair of 15$ earrings. it wasnt that the earrings were insufficient, its just he mislead her with the assumption that she was about to get a engagement ring, and it would almost seem insulting that he tricked her like that, especially since she got so emotional
I was actually under the impression that a big part of OP's reason for considering this an FML was that she was embarrassed for making a big display over the gift when it wasn't really anything to start crying over. Because it was Tiffany, she was probably expecting a going steady or engagement piece. The fact that it WASN'T a commitment piece was what got her down, NOT solely the fact that the jewelry itself was 15 bucks.
20, She certainly could ask him. But when was the last time you saw an engagement ring for men advertised? Hey, there's an idea! Let guys wear those attractive but often unpractical things on the third finger of their left hand for the rest of their lives. In addition to the wedding ring, which is often given by bride to groom. Then you could get the swag, too! Hey, FML guys: would you want an engagement ring? Would you want to be expected to wear it?
151, No apology required. This is FML, and a bit of snark can get a point across well. Very to sorry about your situation; this FML must be like a sore tooth. Best of luck in getting through it all. Re the FML, it says to me that she is likely a traditionalist and wanting the "ask," of which a ring is the symbol of both commitment and the man's ability to provide for the woman. As for retrogressive: there is a lot of that going around. After the non-engagement-ring fiasco, she likely felt embarrassed, foolish, and angry (hence FML). Emotionally cooling down and talking it out might need to come first, then with it a sincere thanks for the earrings. Me? I proposed to a guy, sans ring. He declined but later proposed to me, offering ring. I just wanted to skip the whole ring business. We settled on wedding rings for both. He was the more traditional one; culture clash was a big part of why we didn't marry.
Apprehension, doubt, and guilt are likely in the stew the poster and her boyfriend are in. Poster and her boyfriend had a big clash of expectations. Things often seem to be the tangibles on which emotions are laid and played out. I value FML not just for the laughs, but for how the fun can mix with thoughtful differing perspectives. It's the human comedy. Sometimes it is easier to hear things from strangers (and say things to them) than those close to us. Sometimes we can't clarify for ourselves what we are thinking until it comes out of our mouth (or fingers). Why it's great when posters come back and comment in their own posts.
What a cheapass. If he already had a Tiffany box but gave you $15 earrings it means hes holding back...Or he thought you just wouldn't notice
OP you stop bitching at least he tried and bought you something. He even bothered to look for a tiffany box. Now appreciate him and maybe one day he'll propose to you.