By oops - 27/03/2014 23:10 - United States - San Francisco
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Do you think it's funny to call someone a retard? Would you call someone with Down syndrome or CP or autism a retard? No, (hopefully) you wouldn't. Don't insult those people by calling someone who missed a sexual cue a "retard." Or better yet, don't use the word at all. It's downright insulting. As a future special education teacher I'm disgusted to see that people like you still exist. Show some respect.
i understand where #21 is coming from. it can be a movie quote, but for someone who has a relative with a disability (my brother has down syndrome) or like #21, chooses to be a special education teacher, we can take great offence to the word retard. it is an insult. it does not mean stupid, like most people seem to think it does.
#21 Because the whole idea behind the term is completely derogatory, right? The original meaning couldn't have be referring to a slowness or retardation in aspects of intelligence. We waste so much time coming up with better more politically correct terms for every thing. We could probably solve the world's problems if we put the time and energy we used for making up 'better' terms and lashing out at those that don't use the newest terms. Besides that it's a movie reference, so calm your tits.
Retard carries a negative stigma. Watch videos on awareness to pledge this out of your vocab. You guys may say it's an okay word but it really isn't. I have a twin brother with autism so I'm not ignorant when it comes to this subject. #21, you have a great point and I'm disappointed so many thumbed you down. However, if you want to get your point across its best to be calm about it or everyone will mistake you for a rambling idiot.
Not even gonna touch the comments about the word being offensive, take it how you will. I don't have time for hypersensitivity. @ #14 basically because most of the girlfriends I've had that would be waiting for me in my house after work, let's say I would have known them for a while. Seeing them in nothing but a tshirt I would also expect that they were feeling randy. Unless the guy is extremely shy or just had a huge brain fart(is that more PC, or will I be yelled at because someone's cousins uncle once had an air bubble that caused a brain hemorrhage, so brain fart is now too mean to say?) his reaction makes no sense.
#21 and #41, the definition of retarded is "not working correctly. " I have the utmost respect for handicapped people. I never make fun of them or call them names. However, if my computer is messing up, or a friend does something dumb, I WILL jokingly call them retarded. I'm not making fun of an actually-handicapped person, and I really refuse to be as politically correct as everyone is getting these days. To me, it's like the soccer games where there "is no score" (everyone wins). It's pointless and wasted energy to keep people from saying certain words that aren't meant to hurt others.
His reaction makes perfect sense. Not every guy is so hypersexual that seeing a half naked girl means an invitation to sex. The dude had a long day at work and was tired. Cut him some slack. My wife prances around in the nude half the time (She hates wearing clothes). It's just the way she is, not an invitation for sex. She spends 9hrs a day as a judge in some highly proper setting. When she gets home, she wants to relax. I've learned to give her the space to do that.
I'm going to chime in my two cents with the whole 'retard is a bad word' argument. The way I see it words lose their meaning, or their meaning is altered, ect all the time, and people have to adapt to use that new word. The fact is that retard existed long before it was used to label people with disabilities, but it meant slow, dull, or broken, the medical field adopted it as a term to describe people with disorders, and the word retard is still used to describe these people, but is much less common in the medical field. Back to the point of the story, the word 'nice' was also used to describe people with the same disorders once. Doesn't seem a bit hypocritical to say 'Calling someone a retard isn't nice.'Now? TL;DR Times change and you have to chance with them, people, grow up.
My god! Some people are such emotionally unstable creatures. Look lady, the baby-boom generation are relentless with slang, and we use "retarded" to describe a slow/clueless person. Hate to break the news to you, but this is the Internet. We don't give a flying f**k if you have a retarded son (stuff sugar-coating "disability"), have education in dealing with retarded people, or that you feel the need to bitch out for using the word retarded. Quite frankly, movies use the term often, games use it, and WELCOME to the Internet! We will use the words we create for our own purposes, without restriction, and in all relentlessness.
41- Thanks :) I just feel really passionately about the use of that word. I have met so many learning disabled students who have cried multiple times because of mean kids calling them that word and yes, I realize it as from a movie, but that doesn't make it funny. My cousin has CP and would be classified as "retarded." But he is not. He has a disability and that dies not define him. Sorry for the rant.
The reason why we shouldn't use "gay" or "retarded" as adjectives for things we don't like is exactly the same. I know most people don't mean to be offensive to people of those groups, but we can't just use that for an excuse for saying them. It doesn't take much effort to take it out of our vocabulary. 111's kind of mentality is exactly why we have the "world's problems" 43 talks about. How can we solve anything if we are unwilling to take one word out of our vocabulary that could hurt someone or stigmatizes a population of people?
He's the type of guy where you have to grab him and strap him down to get your intentions, do it.
I think that's really sweet that you have that sort of innocence in your relationship. He doesn't want you purely for sex like so many of the FMLs seem to show; he's a keeper! BUT if you do want to seduce him, talk to him to see if he is comfortable with your techniques! Communication is the key to good sex!