By gutted - 07/05/2012 02:13 - United Kingdom
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Hopefully this was not a large sporting event or one of those big public proposals where it ends up allover the Internet the next day and you drink yourself into a coma.
That really sucks for you, OP but she must have been leading you on! If you thought you two were ready to be engaged and she wasn't ready for it, she obviously lied a bit about her feelings. So unless it was just a shock thing and she came around and said yes, I say forget about her!
It's funny how it's assumed that it's either she's leading him on or poor communication. Or maybe she's tried to tell him her views on the idea and OP just don't listen very well. The topic has been well discussed with my GF but I know that if I asked right now the answer would be a flat no. And it might makes things awkward for a bit but I'm pretty sure we'd drive forward and discuss it later.
Aww I'm sorry to hear about it. Find another girlfriend or try again when she's ready
So I guess we're just factoring out possible bad timing, nervousness on her part, etc? And I'm sorry, but that's beyond ignorant. It's not just you either want to get married or you're a gold digger. I never want to get married and I'm certainly not using my boyfriend. Love how we all assume they're in a completely happy relationship and at a good stable age for marriage.
52, you act as if you know for a fact that OP just sprung it on her. Is it not possible that she may have been hinting towards marriage, but when it came around she was too nervous to say yes? Or maybe she was exaggerating her feelings a bit, and OP was led to believe that she would say yes? I highly doubt that he would just randomly propose without a thought as to what the answer might be.
I reckon always talk about proposing before actually doing it. Then you know you're on the same page and there's no nasty surprises for either of you.
I don't see why they can't. When you propose, you're asking someone to walk on the unpredictable road of the future with you. That doesn't at least make you a little uneasy? Plus, there are so many different factors that can contribute to this reaction. Stress, financial problems, etc. etc. Bottom line, talking it out is still perfectly reasonable.
28 you might get thumbed down less if you grew up a little more before posting your opinion on adult matters several times saying the same damn thing. We get it. You still have your princess wedding hormones and real life hasn't clubbed you upside the head yet. It's okay. We'll be here to read your FML when it does.
She souo imature for marraige, or even a relationship. It really sucks though. :( FYL