By Anonymous - 03/09/2012 08:47 - United States - Evansville
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10- Why do you have to meet the parents before getting married? Are you marrying the parents too? Maybe he knew how bad his parents were and wanted to lock her in before they scared her away?!? I never met my ex-in-laws and I've only met my new in-laws once.
You always should meet the parents first. If your spouse doesn't want you to meet their parents they are hiding something. (maybe just an embarrassingly horrible family) Personally, I wish I had never met my In-laws, but doing so gives me more insight into my husbands personality.
Maybe they met and married in another country. I don't think my dad's parents met my mom and her family until a few days before the wedding. Yes, that's before the wedding and not after, but it could also be that the husband and his family weren't particularly close, or that they aren't very nice to him, either, so he put off introducing his wife to them until it was unavoidable.
43 there are some things that just can't be fixed. I had to cut my parents and siblings out of my life because of how they treated me. There was no fixing it despite years of me trying. I'm better off now without them. I still talk to my extended family, and when I have to see my parents at a wedding I keep it polite, but otherwise there's not contact and it's better that way. I still have nightmares from what they did to me, and I hope my boyfriend never has to meet them.
53, I'm glad you'd husband is so understanding, and is on your side. I've seen similar situations pan out much worse... When a spouse lets their family ties divide them from their wedded lover, even when they don't agree with them. Such as by refusing to acknowledge terrible in laws.
39, you remind me of my uncles bitch girlfriend. She tried to get him to cut alll of his family out of his life because we were mad at her for cheating. And they ended up not inviting any of us to his wedding. They're now divorced. Maybe in the future you be too. Since family's obviously not important to you.
94- there's a difference between your stories unless your family tormented her like the other commenter's family did. She SHOULD feel horrible about cheating and she wasn't justified in cutting you off since she was at fault. If you did nothing and your family tormented you then you should either go see a family counselor or simply cut them off. It would be the best for your own well being. My friends mom is a huge gambler and lost all the money for rent, bills, etc while gambling. My friend and her mentally ill brother had to basically scrape the piggy bank for food. They cut her off an moved as soon as they could. I see that as a good reason to cut a family member off. You don't have to hate the person but there's just times where you can't do anything to make it better anymore.
Your husband has made your dreams come true... in a manner of speaking.
Well if it's the first time you've met them and your married, I hope you live far enough away to not have to deal with them too often.
That Is funny you say that because my grandparents (or my mom's in laws) live right next store to us and it drives us CRAZY! Everything they do for us they expect us to do back for them double and will talk behind our backs if we do it wrong or if we are too busy to do it. It then gets the entire family involved. It sucks.
Your husband's parents? They must be pretty bad if he didn't even invite them to the wedding. (considering whether there was one, I guess)