By CptZoe - 29/02/2012 18:10 - United Kingdom
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80 - is that like "jokingly" asking for a free 'cheat day' from the relationship cuz the leap day technically doesn't exist so neither does any consequences of 'leap-cheat day'? I mean, c'mon. All jokes are half true. She was trying to pull an' inception' on him... But I think guys are smarter than that and also they can smell desperation from a mile away. Sorry OP but YDI. You have to let a man be a man. If he hasn't asked, it's not the right time, even if it was a joke.
100- I don't think you are understanding the word joke. It means to not be serious about something.. Like marriage. OP wasn't seriously asking to get married, just like if she had asked for a "cheat day" she wouldn't have been serious either. The joke was that she reversed the roles, she wasn't actually trying to get him to marry her because obviously that's not how it goes in most relationships. So does that mean should OP, or anyone for that matter, never try to make a joke again for fear of being viewed as "desperate"? And I have to disagree with your comment on all jokes being half truths, because that's just bullshit. When I joke about something, it is the farthest thing from being a "half truth." I think maybe you just don't have a sense of humor. Or a brain.
100 - you know what? You're right. She should joke about marriage with him all the time. It's not like girls are notorious for life planning the next 20 yrs with a guy even if they just met and know nothing about him..so he would have no reason to take the joke even remotely seriously. Great advice. She should joke about babies too. I bet that'll really tickle his funny bone because, I mean, it is just a joke and everyone loves jokes that aren't even remotely linked to truth or real life decisions.
Commitment is more frightening to man than anything. Typically the human male will resort to animal instinct to avoid commitment, check caves, burrows and brothels OP, your man is on the run!
That would be awesome to only have to remember your anniversary every 4 years
It's not a good sign that he avoids you because of that, is it? Even if you were serious, he should still show some decency and talk with you. Avoiding you isn't too brave.
If he thinks shes serious he may be avoiding her while he thinks things over. Not everyone likes being confronted with a life changing question and answering on the spot. He also may have found that question really put his life into perspective. Some people don't like to talk about their personal issues until they've had time to reflect on them themselves.
its not really something you joke about he could think it would start as a joke and then you'd see how he took it and get more serious
Though it would be cool for a leap year anniversary, I think its also a big joke that someone will be mad at along the line. But it is pretty shitty that he is avoiding you OP. Talk to him. Figure out his angle.