By nofrickenway - 25/04/2012 00:08 - United States - Newport News
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^ Hmm, I find myself agreeing with both of you for different reasons. One, presuming the parent tried to raise the child with love and respect, I'd like to believe the child would want to return the favour when the roles are reversed and the parent needs the TLC. But pay back, as in, "You owe me, I provided for you", seems something less than love and more like using guilt to barter and leverage something you want. :p I think morally, if Op can help the mom-in-law if she actually needs a place to live, it'd be a decent thing to do, but they shouldn't feel obliged to. I know I'd help out my folks in a heartbeat if they ever needed it, but they'd never want to impose on me by asking.
I think a key point being missed here is he owes her nothing. If the wife wants to go and buy a house herself using her own money that she's making on the side (ahahahahahahaha goodluck) then by all means go ahead, but he shouldn't have to be obligated to support her mother and buy her a house. What he can do is offer for her to live with them, but that's not what's happening here, it sounds like hes getting the shaft.
This may end up being a bit racist but have you guys considered that Pelio may be a second or first generation Asian-American? I know that the ideas that he has are similar to that of some Asian cultures. Such as the idea that you should take care of your parents and elders when they reach an older age. I'm not saying this is bad but it would explain where the ideas that he has may have originated.
@jizzworld: I was just about to point that out. I'm half filipino and half mexican, but my asian side has always been taught to take care of your elders once you become stable yourself. Or even those of your spouse, such as in this case. It may just be a cultural thing. Its frowned upon to put your elders in a nursing home or anything like that.
I understand her wanting to help her mother, but in no way is she obligated. Her mother brought her into the world, not the other way around. Although it would be sad and take a lack of morals to let her mother sleep on the streets, she's not responsible for her. Anyways fyl for being in the middle of this,
Yes, she should help her mother out, but that she wants them to buy a house and have them live "with her" is unacceptable. Who knows what OP's financial situation is, they might not want or be able to buy a house. I just hate how she had the nerve to tell THEM to buy a house, and then say they could live with HER.
You might want to go ahead and stop your mother-in-law now before you have two wives.