By augiedd - 05/03/2014 02:46 - United States - Schaumburg
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My friend is not a judgmental person. In her defense I told her at 3am (I get a little loopy after 2am and she knows that) But I knew I would need to be exhaustive to tell her. Once she realized I was not joking she apologized and we spent the rest of the night talking about the cute guys in our school!!
Well, just go on about your life as normal. If any incident were to leave her shocked, just whip out the "I told you so!"
You've done it once, you can do it again! Stand strong, and if she or anyone doesn't accept it they aren't worth your time anyway. I wish you the best of luck :)
Try again another time. Information as huge as that cant be processed i a matter of minutes.
I'm not saying its negative. I'm just saying that having your best friend all of a sudden come out as gay wouldn't be something you'd be like "oh, ok" in 5 minutes. They'd probably be shocked, and it also depends on the best friend's viewpoint. Notice all the videos of kids coming out as gay to their parents, even to parents that accept gays, they sit there talking for hours... Coming out as gay is life changing...
I just hope that one day people won't have to "come out". Coming out implies you felt the need to hide it for so long. I get what you're saying though. If my best friend said he was gay I would laugh for a half hour or more. But that's because he is married to a woman, with kids. But my point is that hopefully we as society can continue to change perception so that coming out isn't such a drastic, big deal that takes so long to process. I think the only thing that will change it is time, as newer generations that are being raised to be more accepting grow up and have children.
Just look deep into her eyes and say slowly " I don't believe in friendzone"
Since OP is a guy and his best friend is a girl, by saying to her that he doesn't believe in the friendzone, by deduction it leaves the only 2 possibilities. One, he is infact interested and has romantic feelings for her. Two, he is gay. Since, they are obviously friends and he hasn't attempted to make his move on her, it can only mean he is gay. By deduction. Been reading too much of Sherlock Holmes I think.
Except that being friend zoned is when a guy/girl is wanting a relationship and the other person is just wanting to be friends.. Whereas both people just wanting to be friends is not being "friend zoned".. But is just a mutual friendship. So there is no logic to your logic.