By pimpdaddyX - 22/09/2012 16:22 - Malaysia - Shah Alam
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77 he's not showing confidence by handing her a paper with his number and walking away. That shows arrogance. Confidence would be walking up to her, talking to her, and then asking for her number. By just handing her his number, it makes him look like he believes he can get any girl by just handing off his number and walking away.
Perhaps she typed it into her phone before leaving, thereby giving you a chance for a real connection. Or not...
Women can be insensitive. Not contacting you or saying "Sorry, I'm not interested" would be a much more appropriate response.
Batman I fully agree! And to the posts above, it's not just one. It's the 93 or so out of a 100 that gives that reputation. I've lost count of the girls I've asked for their number and got; laughed at, told to f**k off, fake dry heaving, or over the top hurtful ways. Only a very few times have I heard no thank. Women for the most part are crewel.
It's not smooth when you give a girl some scrap of paper. Go talk to her and show her some of your better qualities; you might find that she'll be a bit more responsive.
You don't know his situation. It may be that he isn't good with approaching girls with conversation, and he asked a female friend for advice and she said "You need to make a better first impression, just smoothly give her a slip of paper with your number on it, and you can get to know each other through text, so when you meet again in person you'll be comfortable with her." It isn't easy for everyone to approach someone, fearing rejection, and try to make a good impression. Especially after several failed attempts. Slipping someone your number isn't ideal, but if the alternative is being a sweaty, stuttering, nervous wreck, it may be the best option you have.
Sometimes girls appreciate it when they know how much courage it took to talk to them. It lets them know that they are more important or attractive enough to outweigh the cost of possible social humiliation or personal anxiety. On the other hand, metaphorically shoving your number down her throat is a definite turn-off and makes you look like a complete self-obsessed jerk. It doesn't take that much effort to say hi and introduce yourself to someone.
#19, yes, but it is much much easier to talk to someone in person after you already know they are interested and have had some conversation with them. If she sent kind texts and seems like a nice person it is much less scary talking to her in person than it is going up to her not knowing if she'll just verbally destroy you.
No, no. Batman, you're looking at it through the digital glasses. 'hide behind the computer screen, it's safer' sort of deal. I'd rather a man with courage (even if he's nervous!) to come talk to me, to put some thought into what's he's going to approach me with and then try. It personally makes me feel as if they are more of a man. Not to mention, it's rather adorable too see them nervous. Not all men have that, some can just go smoothly into the conversation, but it's up to both parties to be polite and properly address the other. In this case, the girl OP slipped the paper too, properly addressed him. She gave back the piece of paper exactly how she obtained it. That is how he wanted it. If he wanted words, he'd of used words first.
#70 I assume you are talking to me. You'd be assuming wrong. Once I was sort of friend-zoned, I was friends-with-benefits-zoned. I cared about the girl though, and it was hard hanging out with her every day and having a sexual relationship with her but not anything more. But it was even harder to resist. I don't get friend-zoned a lot, but I do seem to always find the girls who want to fuck but not date, or date for a few weeks and then move on. I especially hate the whole "Sorry, I just can't stay in this relationship because I'll just keep hurting you (referring to her cheating), but we can still be friends." And then two weeks later she stops talking to me. Whatever though. I guess it's better to have sex with many hot women than to have none.