By Anonymous - 13/02/2014 15:47 - United States - Kennett
By caryl101698 - 09/06/2016 01:40 - United States - Medford
By stupid! - 02/10/2021 17:00
By NotAMorningPerson - 12/02/2011 04:02 - United States
By Oily - 16/12/2011 09:08 - New Zealand
By Anonymous - 09/12/2012 14:53 - United States - Conroe
By Alex - 15/12/2020 13:58
By FIM - 12/01/2017 15:18
By FunFun in the Sun - 16/03/2016 14:51 - Dominican Republic - Santo Domingo
By Anonymous - 06/01/2010 21:15 - United Kingdom
By notahero - 09/01/2015 04:40 - United States - Brentwood
By ikungfuyou - 27/12/2011 07:11 - United States
By GeeTwo - 21/02/2012 18:45 - United States
By nosebleeder - 13/02/2013 20:31 - Sweden
By unfortunate - 09/06/2009 23:12 - United States
By Anonymous - 12/09/2017 20:00
By seththing - 22/05/2016 03:49
By xX_nsn_Xx - 03/02/2012 14:47 - United States
By ThreeTimesUnlucky - 17/10/2012 18:52 - South Africa - Edenvale
By maybe? - 11/02/2015 16:11 - Germany - Hamburg
By rosabelle91 - 17/06/2012 14:58 - Australia - Sydney
By nixwolfwood - 19/12/2016 21:14
By blehh - 14/04/2009 20:40 - United States
By not eyelid - 20/09/2016 19:53 - Spain - Manresa
By parentalissues - 15/02/2013 15:50 - United States
By anonymous - 11/06/2015 14:37 - Canada - Calgary
By sleepwalkers - 25/05/2021 05:01 - United States
By Kayla - 06/10/2018 14:00
By Anonymous - 27/09/2010 11:45 - United States
By Anonymous - 11/01/2015 08:44
By Anonymous - 10/09/2011 15:34 - United States
By Anonymous - 11/02/2020 14:00
By anonymous - 05/04/2011 18:13 - United States
By glitterzebra - 09/10/2011 08:30 - United States
By meunluckycharms - 14/09/2015 19:54 - Canada - Toronto
By Anonymous - 30/08/2017 20:00
By Anonymous - 06/03/2015 01:34 - United States - Ridge
By lostinspace - 04/09/2013 16:24 - United States - Grand Rapids
By Sisi - 29/08/2016 16:49 - United States - Mesa
By Anonymous - 29/09/2009 05:26 - Canada
By atsukobo - 02/11/2020 22:59 - United States
Add a comment - Reply to : #
To number 84 Well yeah condoms are awesome but mom should have talked to her first and see if she's sexually active or was about to be sexually active. The talk is helpful my mom and dad both did. They explained to me that there are different sizes of condoms, even female condoms, how important it was to use them and another form of birthcontrol with it just in case the condom breaks (this was before plan b). They told me and showed me every std and the effects of them. They told if I ever needed something to talk to them and not be afraid even though they would prefer me to refrain from sex but know that if it happens they want me to feel secure enough to talk and ask them. Having that helps more then just a box of condoms how to use them and leave.
#189, have you seen the comments on here before? (Though very slightly off topic) I see debates often on how people get pregnant. Parts of the FML community doesn't know about how a women actually gets pregnant. Also telling people about the multiple forms of birth control isn't really "intimate details" it's rather important and should be discussed. It's not like they told her how she was conceived in the backseat of a Chevy after a condom broke or anything.
#189 it's about being well informed they didn't tell me how to have sex they informed me if my options on how to be protected when I decided to. And there was no Google for me when I was growing. And just because the talk is uncomfortable doesn't mean it should be avoided.
When I decided I was ready to be sexually active, my mom took me to the doctor to get on birth control, bought me my first condoms, and told me I could come to her if I needed to talk about anything. We never had that incredibly awkward sit-down "talk" because she was always open and honest with me about sex, the benefits, and of course the consequences. I attribute that as the biggest reason why I waited until I was almost 19 to have sex.
pregnancy rate is down, the number of babies born being higher than in the past is due to the excess of the generation (for an example, lets say 100 teens had 25 kids in the 90s, whereas now there are 200 teens having 40 kids). there are more babies overall, but a lower percentage of potential parents are having the babies.
Guess you''ve got nothing to worry about! :) Your daughter sounds awesome.
I agree with you. OP's daughter seems to like some fun. I also have to say OP is doing a good thing giving her daughter condoms in case she is sexually active. It'll prevent her from pregnancy and giving the protection to her would possibly make her more open with her parents, so she wouldn't be afraid to talk to them about being sexually active. Good for you, OP, for being a good parent. :)
Regardless of information on stds and pregnancies, not everyone takes the same path. While refraining is ideal at younger ages, it's never going to happen 100%. A responsible parent knows this and tries to give them the information and tools available in case their child doesn't refrain. It's not giving them permission. It's just not sticking their head in the sand pretending it won't happen just because they don't want it to.
#86 Abstinence ed worked. It did just what the research said it would! lots more teen pregnancies, huge huge jumps in infection rates for everything from chlamydia to pubic lice to HIV! I mean, if they didn't want that result, they would have picked programs that were effective at reducing the number of partners, infection rates, and teen pregnancies, right?
#3 this is FML tons of people on here are going to hate you for saying "abstinence." Cuz "kids need sex too! You old prude!" My old man had a pretty simple talk with me that worked well. If I got a girl pregnant before I was making my own money and supporting myself he wouldn't help me out with the bills at all. I pretty much kept my pecker in my pants until I was in the military. As I've said in other FMLs you should be supporting yourself before you start sexing. If you think your man enough to fuck you better be man enough to handle all the possible consequences of sex.
I totally agree with you, last time I said such a thing....several hundred kids whined to the fml owners & I got banned for a month for supposedly "violating the terms of agreement" & supposedly "saying harassing/demeaning comments". Btw, I gave you a thumbs up. :)
Okay, I do not agree with #3 completely either, but was the middle eastern comment necessary? 1) Just because they believe teens having sex isn't the best thing doesn't mean you can guess where they are from 2) I'm from South east Asia, and while I wish I had saved myself for marriage, I don't think it's a bad thing for others not to. I know many people, including teens (not from the Middle East) that think it's better to wait. Do before you show off your ignorance you can realize everyone has different views on a subject.
3, I wish my parents talked to me about sex. I was having sex in middle school and part of hs and at times unprotected. I wasn't educated and I wish I had been. Thank goodness I didn't get an STD or get pregnant. When I have kids I sure as shit will talk to them ans give them all the condoms I can offer! Teens will have sex no matter what so telling them to not have sex is giving them another way of them rebelling against you!
My mom taught me abstinence. I'm 17, still a virgin, and not planning on losing that status for a long time. I guess it just depends on the kid and how they want to live their life. Or how good of a relationship the kid has with their parents. I love and trust my mom, if I hated my mom, I would probably rebel and go have sex. I feel like buying condoms for your kid is like saying "okay, I don't care anymore. I approve of you going out and having sex"
#172- you can not equate love for your mother and having sex. Good for you remaining abstinent, but just because someone chooses to have sex against their parents wishes doesn't negate their love for them. And a blanket statement like," ok I don't care anymore" is a bit ridiculous. Now if the parent said," eh..she can get an std for all I care" that would be a pretty good sign.
Im a senior, and I was raised that sex isn't a bad thing that, however when you are a virgin you can only give that away to one person, and that it's more special when you wait till your wedding day. I was also taught to think about how I would feel to know my bf/husband has slept with other people and can compare me against them. So I have decided to abstain from sex till I'm married or in a long, and strong relationship. It's about the manner you teach them in. I don't want my bf/husband to know iv slept with other men, so I won't.
Having sex against your parents wishes is disobedience, and loving your parents means obeying them. If your parents prohibit sex, you should obey them. I'm not saying you hate them if you don't, but obedience is a way to show love and respect. Sure it's your life, but if you still live with your parents you should obey them.
Obeying their wishes shows respect not love. I absolutely love my parents but I didn't always follow what they said because I thought I knew everything. I lost my mom in June at the age of 19. I regret being the ignorant teenager that I was but my mom always knew that I loved her and never meant to hurt her
you have a great point there and I agree with most of it, but I hate my mom, I'm a teen, she would hate it if I had sex, and I still am a virgin. I respect myself and personally believe I shouldn't have sex until I'm with the right person... Well and I'm really not a rebellious person
Youre a good parent though. At least you're thinking about your daughters health. I'd rather know my daughter is having protected sex than sneaking around and having unprotected sex because she's too shy or uneducated about protection.
exactly! education is key. it isn't wrong for young people to explore their sexual wants/needs. it IS wrong to let them try and figure it out on their own. abstinence education only works so well, kids are having sex younger and younger these days and need to be taught about it. how properly use protection, making appointments with an OBGYN, etc.
She gave you two responses 1. Message received 2. I'm not ready. When she's ready, just talk to her